DammitJanet
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I have really started to become more and more irritated with my oldest son. He has lived with us since my mom came back to live with us and really has only worked consistently for the last 3 or so years. Maybe slightly more. All of it at Radio Shack. He had a short job at Kmart for a few months in layaway but that only last for the Xmas season. He did live with Jamie for about 9 months and he worked at a convenience store up there too but since he has been with us since 2001, he has only worked for maybe, lets give him 4 years at most. Of those 4 years, half of them have been part time. Until he bought his car two years ago, I had to drive him everywhere he went. He went to community college twice. Once for a 2 year degree and once for a 9 month certificate.
Once he started working we asked him for 100 bucks a month. Plus we asked him always to help around the house. He has pretty much paid the money but the help around the house is mostly non existent or done with neglect. He just doesnt care. If I tell him to do the kitchen, he will wash a few dishes and thats it. I have tried lists and that doesnt work. He refuses to even take out the trash. We dont get trash pick up so we have to take it out to the woods to burn it or he could actually take a bag with him to his store and throw it in the dumpster there. It wouldnt be a big problem for him.
Another huge issue is that now that we switched from dishnetwork to cable, he was supposed to pick up the difference in price because he wanted it for the internet. well that difference was about 65 bucks but he just decided he would pay 150 a month towards the power bill instead. I didnt say anything and let it go. But we buy all the food, all the household products, all the soap, laundry detergent...etc.
If Tony and I go out to pick up fast food for dinner we bring him home a plate. We are good to him.
The other night, he called me to ask what we were doing for dinner. I told him Tony and I had gone to town to pick up a car seat and some other stuff and picked up something while out so he needed to get something for himself. Now we had eaten a bit earlier so I asked him where he was going...he was still in the town where he works. He was hemming and hawing. I said why dont you go to Cook Out and get me a milk shake. Nope...he didnt want to go there. Ok...then I heard him at a drive thru ordering something. I asked him where he was and he said Arby's...I said hey get me one of those chocolate croissants. He said it was too late he had already ordered. Now look, you can always add to your order we all know that. THEN HE SAID...besides, I cant afford to spend extra money.
Ok folks...that ticked me off. What I asked for costs a dollar! He does nothing around the house and we buy his food and he cant buy me something that costs a dollar. Well no more. Im not bringing him food home anymore. He whines about how he has to save his money to buy his food at work...well he better save his money to buy all his food. Just how much food does he eat at work? His only bills are the 150 here and his car insurance and a 30 buck cell phone bill. He brings home roughly 1400 a month.
He needs to move out. Supposedly he is waiting for this girlfriend to get her divorce. I cant wait. Right now he is moaning and groaning about how he is so stressed about working at this job. If he quits it I will die.
Once he started working we asked him for 100 bucks a month. Plus we asked him always to help around the house. He has pretty much paid the money but the help around the house is mostly non existent or done with neglect. He just doesnt care. If I tell him to do the kitchen, he will wash a few dishes and thats it. I have tried lists and that doesnt work. He refuses to even take out the trash. We dont get trash pick up so we have to take it out to the woods to burn it or he could actually take a bag with him to his store and throw it in the dumpster there. It wouldnt be a big problem for him.
Another huge issue is that now that we switched from dishnetwork to cable, he was supposed to pick up the difference in price because he wanted it for the internet. well that difference was about 65 bucks but he just decided he would pay 150 a month towards the power bill instead. I didnt say anything and let it go. But we buy all the food, all the household products, all the soap, laundry detergent...etc.
If Tony and I go out to pick up fast food for dinner we bring him home a plate. We are good to him.
The other night, he called me to ask what we were doing for dinner. I told him Tony and I had gone to town to pick up a car seat and some other stuff and picked up something while out so he needed to get something for himself. Now we had eaten a bit earlier so I asked him where he was going...he was still in the town where he works. He was hemming and hawing. I said why dont you go to Cook Out and get me a milk shake. Nope...he didnt want to go there. Ok...then I heard him at a drive thru ordering something. I asked him where he was and he said Arby's...I said hey get me one of those chocolate croissants. He said it was too late he had already ordered. Now look, you can always add to your order we all know that. THEN HE SAID...besides, I cant afford to spend extra money.
Ok folks...that ticked me off. What I asked for costs a dollar! He does nothing around the house and we buy his food and he cant buy me something that costs a dollar. Well no more. Im not bringing him food home anymore. He whines about how he has to save his money to buy his food at work...well he better save his money to buy all his food. Just how much food does he eat at work? His only bills are the 150 here and his car insurance and a 30 buck cell phone bill. He brings home roughly 1400 a month.
He needs to move out. Supposedly he is waiting for this girlfriend to get her divorce. I cant wait. Right now he is moaning and groaning about how he is so stressed about working at this job. If he quits it I will die.