Is anyone awake

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by TearyEyed, Sep 25, 2014.

  1. TearyEyed

    TearyEyed Member

    It's late but I am having a crisis with difficult child. If anyone is around I need to talk.


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  2. nlj

    nlj Well-Known Member

    I am.
    It's 7.30 a.m. here in the UK and I'm just having a quick coffee before the morning rush!
     
  3. TearyEyed

    TearyEyed Member

    My son was released from jail. Talked to him a few times and got him a hotel room for one night. It's been 4 hours and he never checked in. I am in a panic. I don't know what to do


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  4. TearyEyed

    TearyEyed Member

    Thank you for responding by the way


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  5. nlj

    nlj Well-Known Member

    If he's been in jail maybe he doesn't want to head straight for a hotel room. Maybe he just needs to be 'out' for a bit. Does he have friends he wants to catch up with?
     
  6. TearyEyed

    TearyEyed Member

    No friends. And the phone calls went well. He was on his way to the hotel, omg. I am really losing it right now.


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  7. TearyEyed

    TearyEyed Member

    What should I do? It's 11:30 here. He is a few cities away. There is no way for me to find him.


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  8. GuideMe

    GuideMe Active Member

    Does he have a cell phone??
     
  9. nlj

    nlj Well-Known Member

    Try not to panic. Hugs.

    There is nearly always an explanation with our sons. Mine vanishes from the radar regularly and he's always fine.

    What are the possibilities? Has he gone somewhere for food? Has he gone to a bar?

    Does he have a drug problem and has gone in search of a hit?

    4 hours is not a long time for them. They have no understanding of how much we can worry in 4 hours.
     
  10. GuideMe

    GuideMe Active Member

    Can you call the hotel to see if he checked in?
     
  11. TearyEyed

    TearyEyed Member

    Thank you. You are right. I just have such horror stories running through my head. And he puts himself in such dangerous situations I can't help but wonder. I hope you have a good day and thanks for being there for me.


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  12. nlj

    nlj Well-Known Member

    I'll be thinking of you and will check in regularly.

    Let us know when you hear from him.
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  13. TearyEyed

    TearyEyed Member

    Guide me

    No cell phone. Nothing. I know his patterns and the way things were going this doesn't make sense.


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  14. TearyEyed

    TearyEyed Member

    I called the hotel. He has not checked in.


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  15. TearyEyed

    TearyEyed Member

    Thanks Lucy


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  16. GuideMe

    GuideMe Active Member


    How did you talk to him? When he was in jail about to leave? How was he suppose to get to hotel? How far is the hotel from jail?
     
  17. TearyEyed

    TearyEyed Member

    He left jail at2:30. Called me at 3:30. He said he was going to pick up his clothes god knows where. I told him to call me back at 6:30. He did. He wanted to come home. I said no but I would get him a hotel room. He said he would call me back in 30 minutes. He did. He said he would call me when he got to the hotel for the confirm number. Haven't heard from him since.


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  18. TearyEyed

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    And the conversation was good. He was fine. No harsh words. This doesn't make sense. Not that difficult children make sense but I just feel like something isn't right


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  19. GuideMe

    GuideMe Active Member

    I think Lucy is right. He is probably trying to catch up with all his friends and I wouldn't be too surprised if he checks into hotel later on tonight, however, he might just stay over a friends house. difficult child's can not be alone, that is one thing I learned.
     
  20. TearyEyed

    TearyEyed Member

    Thanks. I am just scared and probably not rational right now. I really can't imagine a torture worse than what we go through with our difficult children. Thank goodness for you and all of the wonderful people on this forum. I guess I should try to sleep but I doubt that will happen. It's so hard to fight the urge to do something


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