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<blockquote data-quote="VLong" data-source="post: 41245" data-attributes="member: 3458"><p>Michelle,</p><p></p><p>I have been happily married for almost 6 years to my wonderful husband, whom I have known for almost 30 years and when we first were married, both of my boys were difficult children. The oldest, now 20 and a wonderful young man, had been diagnosis'd with ODD and the youngest, now 14, with ADHD. As the oldest matured, the ODD seemed to just go away with his maturing. The youngest is now living with his dad (his choice) and doing wonderfully.</p><p></p><p>husband and I have had our moments, but only one where I wanted out, not him. I didn't feel like it was fair to him to have to deal with the fallout of difficult children. But he said he loved me and that while the boys were hard to deal with, they would someday be out of the house and it would just be us. It's not easy at times to keep your relationship strong when dealing with them, but with a lot of communication AND being on the same page at all times, we've come thru it just fine. We've had to have the oldest leave our home for almost a year...he was homeless, broke and basically a loser. After a lot of thought and growing up, he asked to come back late last year, on our terms, and is doing great now. He's very polite, respectful and great to be around now. Had we let him just stay here and continue down the path he was on I don't think he would appreciate what he has now.</p><p></p><p>It's a long, hard road, but it can be done. I'm sure there will be others along soon that agree with me and some that won't. Everyone is different and each relationship is different. Mine is different because husband is the stepdad to mine and there's a lot of stuff to deal with with just that going on. </p><p></p><p>Also, I didn't get married until I was 43 and had been in love with my husband for all of those years, even when we were apart and with other people. I just decided that my marriage to him is the biggest blessing in my life, in addition to my kids, and I was going to make it my top priority. </p><p></p><p>Vicki</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="VLong, post: 41245, member: 3458"] Michelle, I have been happily married for almost 6 years to my wonderful husband, whom I have known for almost 30 years and when we first were married, both of my boys were difficult children. The oldest, now 20 and a wonderful young man, had been diagnosis'd with ODD and the youngest, now 14, with ADHD. As the oldest matured, the ODD seemed to just go away with his maturing. The youngest is now living with his dad (his choice) and doing wonderfully. husband and I have had our moments, but only one where I wanted out, not him. I didn't feel like it was fair to him to have to deal with the fallout of difficult children. But he said he loved me and that while the boys were hard to deal with, they would someday be out of the house and it would just be us. It's not easy at times to keep your relationship strong when dealing with them, but with a lot of communication AND being on the same page at all times, we've come thru it just fine. We've had to have the oldest leave our home for almost a year...he was homeless, broke and basically a loser. After a lot of thought and growing up, he asked to come back late last year, on our terms, and is doing great now. He's very polite, respectful and great to be around now. Had we let him just stay here and continue down the path he was on I don't think he would appreciate what he has now. It's a long, hard road, but it can be done. I'm sure there will be others along soon that agree with me and some that won't. Everyone is different and each relationship is different. Mine is different because husband is the stepdad to mine and there's a lot of stuff to deal with with just that going on. Also, I didn't get married until I was 43 and had been in love with my husband for all of those years, even when we were apart and with other people. I just decided that my marriage to him is the biggest blessing in my life, in addition to my kids, and I was going to make it my top priority. Vicki [/QUOTE]
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