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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 370269" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>K - It all comes down to how much more of "you" that you are going to sacrifice to difficult child. You have bent over backwards to help this child -- at the cost of your job, your home, your credit, your sanity and risking your freedom. It has not helped. He is no better off than he was 2 years ago. And your life is in shambles. You are an intelligent, capable woman and you will recover from this, but can you recover if difficult child keeps dragging you down? </p><p></p><p>If it looked like difficult child was ready to grab a lifeline, then it may be worth it. But he has been very clear that he is not interested in doing the work he needs to do and taking responsibility for his actions. It is very unusual that DSS wants to place your son out of state. They are mandated to work toward reunification and (at least in our state) you are legally entitled to weekly viists with your child-in-foster-care. How can they facilitate that if he is with your brother? When you change jurisdictions, do you also change to a different DSS-office's coverage area? Perhaps research the surrounding states and see which one has the best version of DSS for your needs and move there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 370269, member: 1169"] K - It all comes down to how much more of "you" that you are going to sacrifice to difficult child. You have bent over backwards to help this child -- at the cost of your job, your home, your credit, your sanity and risking your freedom. It has not helped. He is no better off than he was 2 years ago. And your life is in shambles. You are an intelligent, capable woman and you will recover from this, but can you recover if difficult child keeps dragging you down? If it looked like difficult child was ready to grab a lifeline, then it may be worth it. But he has been very clear that he is not interested in doing the work he needs to do and taking responsibility for his actions. It is very unusual that DSS wants to place your son out of state. They are mandated to work toward reunification and (at least in our state) you are legally entitled to weekly viists with your child-in-foster-care. How can they facilitate that if he is with your brother? When you change jurisdictions, do you also change to a different DSS-office's coverage area? Perhaps research the surrounding states and see which one has the best version of DSS for your needs and move there. [/QUOTE]
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