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Is it ever ok to just be "done?"
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<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 687264" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>Hi Walrus. </p><p></p><p>This is how my husband feels, he says it kind of worries him that he feels absolutely nothing. But it works for him for now, it keeps his resolve strong to not ride the roller coaster.</p><p></p><p></p><p>No, you surely won't forget BUT "never" is a long time, none of us know what/who may change tomorrow on any front. People do grow and change, no-it may not happen for her but if it does (shown by repeated actions over a long period of time) you may feel differently. I hope that for you. I'm always encouraged here when one of our kids makes it, I mostly don't expect it will ever be mine, but I hang on to that kernel of hope for all of us.</p><p></p><p> I'd have to think about this one, a person forgives for themselves, their own mental health. The person who needs to be forgiven many times is unwilling or unaware. Probably many of our D_C's just don't realize or care of our pain. But for me accepting "It is what it is" can be a form of forgiveness. To simply just let it go so it doesn't eat us up inside. Maybe I'm not differentiating acceptance and forgiveness. </p><p>...that all being said...as someone who has not heard from her son for 6 wks., I feel ok with just being done. Could we "just be done" together? Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 687264, member: 20054"] Hi Walrus. This is how my husband feels, he says it kind of worries him that he feels absolutely nothing. But it works for him for now, it keeps his resolve strong to not ride the roller coaster. No, you surely won't forget BUT "never" is a long time, none of us know what/who may change tomorrow on any front. People do grow and change, no-it may not happen for her but if it does (shown by repeated actions over a long period of time) you may feel differently. I hope that for you. I'm always encouraged here when one of our kids makes it, I mostly don't expect it will ever be mine, but I hang on to that kernel of hope for all of us. I'd have to think about this one, a person forgives for themselves, their own mental health. The person who needs to be forgiven many times is unwilling or unaware. Probably many of our D_C's just don't realize or care of our pain. But for me accepting "It is what it is" can be a form of forgiveness. To simply just let it go so it doesn't eat us up inside. Maybe I'm not differentiating acceptance and forgiveness. ...that all being said...as someone who has not heard from her son for 6 wks., I feel ok with just being done. Could we "just be done" together? Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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