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<blockquote data-quote="DarkwingPsyduck" data-source="post: 687393" data-attributes="member: 20267"><p>I feel you there. My twin sister now has THREE children. She arrived in Reno with the younger son, Christopher. And promptly dumped him off on my aunt, uncle, and me. Played NO role in his life in any way. In fact, her actions resulted in him being taken away from us. Something they only accomplished after pinning me to the ground and handcuffing me. It was very painful... What pissed me off the most was when I spoke to my sister the very next day. She didn't give a single <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" />. It literally didn't phase her in the least. She just showed up, hit my aunt up for money, and bounced. I was very close to throttling her at that point. I remember thinking about how nice it must be to not have human emotions. Kid ended up with his grandmother in Texas, which was good. She is good people, with a large family. Stereotypical black church going type from Texas. And he is with his older brother, who has the same father. Then she gets pregnant again. And is arrested months before she went into labor. Drove all the way to Vegas to be able to take the baby so she wouldn't end up with the state, too. Had her since day one. I really did try not to get too attached to her because of what happened last time, but it wasn't possible. Yet, my sister clearly cares VERY little about her. She has been out of prison for 6 months now, and has seen her maybe 5 or 6 times. It doesn't bother her. I don't understand it.... It isn't JUST drugs. It is her, for better or worse. Accepting that has made things a bit easier. I accept the fact that NOTHING I do will change it. And that dwelling on it is an enormous waste of time. I don't get along with her, but I am not actively out trying to get her, or anything. I don't want a relationship with her, so I don't have one. And I don't think it makes me a bad brother, or a bad uncle to her children.</p><p></p><p>People are who they are. And if they are out to hurt you, why should you put up with it? You shouldn't, and I think you're perfectly justified in wanting to protect yourself. I do not know your daughter, and I am NOT a doctor of any kind. I speak only from experience, and I could just be entirely wrong. Maybe my sister isn't a perfect sociopath. Maybe your daughter isn't, either. I hope they aren't, and I am hoping it changes, but I do not need to put up with it affecting my life negatively. If either of them do change, they wont need to tell you. You will see it yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DarkwingPsyduck, post: 687393, member: 20267"] I feel you there. My twin sister now has THREE children. She arrived in Reno with the younger son, Christopher. And promptly dumped him off on my aunt, uncle, and me. Played NO role in his life in any way. In fact, her actions resulted in him being taken away from us. Something they only accomplished after pinning me to the ground and handcuffing me. It was very painful... What pissed me off the most was when I spoke to my sister the very next day. She didn't give a single :censored2:. It literally didn't phase her in the least. She just showed up, hit my aunt up for money, and bounced. I was very close to throttling her at that point. I remember thinking about how nice it must be to not have human emotions. Kid ended up with his grandmother in Texas, which was good. She is good people, with a large family. Stereotypical black church going type from Texas. And he is with his older brother, who has the same father. Then she gets pregnant again. And is arrested months before she went into labor. Drove all the way to Vegas to be able to take the baby so she wouldn't end up with the state, too. Had her since day one. I really did try not to get too attached to her because of what happened last time, but it wasn't possible. Yet, my sister clearly cares VERY little about her. She has been out of prison for 6 months now, and has seen her maybe 5 or 6 times. It doesn't bother her. I don't understand it.... It isn't JUST drugs. It is her, for better or worse. Accepting that has made things a bit easier. I accept the fact that NOTHING I do will change it. And that dwelling on it is an enormous waste of time. I don't get along with her, but I am not actively out trying to get her, or anything. I don't want a relationship with her, so I don't have one. And I don't think it makes me a bad brother, or a bad uncle to her children. People are who they are. And if they are out to hurt you, why should you put up with it? You shouldn't, and I think you're perfectly justified in wanting to protect yourself. I do not know your daughter, and I am NOT a doctor of any kind. I speak only from experience, and I could just be entirely wrong. Maybe my sister isn't a perfect sociopath. Maybe your daughter isn't, either. I hope they aren't, and I am hoping it changes, but I do not need to put up with it affecting my life negatively. If either of them do change, they wont need to tell you. You will see it yourself. [/QUOTE]
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