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Is it ever ok to just be "done?"
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 687596" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I want to check in on forgiveness too. Unless it is something religious and I don't get it, how can you forgive somebody who isn't sorry? I have tried to do it, because it is often recommended but for me it doesn't work. I can certainly do radical acceptance and, say, I admit and accept that my mother did not love me, but she was never sorry for how she treated me and I could never think "I forgive you although you nearly destroyed my heart." Instead, I say "my mother did not love mr. This caused problems for me, but I have/had no control of her. I can let that destroy me or not. I choose to move on."</p><p>That is useful to me</p><p>Forgiving somebody with no remorse just doesn't do it for me. I forgive anyone for almost anything if they are sorry and I wholeheartedly step up when I am wrong</p><p></p><p>Forgiveness to me means you have remorse. Or you forgive me because I have remorse</p><p>Otherwise, I picture a helium balloon and let go. I let go without malice but I don't see it as forgiveness</p><p>Just my boring speel. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 687596, member: 1550"] I want to check in on forgiveness too. Unless it is something religious and I don't get it, how can you forgive somebody who isn't sorry? I have tried to do it, because it is often recommended but for me it doesn't work. I can certainly do radical acceptance and, say, I admit and accept that my mother did not love me, but she was never sorry for how she treated me and I could never think "I forgive you although you nearly destroyed my heart." Instead, I say "my mother did not love mr. This caused problems for me, but I have/had no control of her. I can let that destroy me or not. I choose to move on." That is useful to me Forgiving somebody with no remorse just doesn't do it for me. I forgive anyone for almost anything if they are sorry and I wholeheartedly step up when I am wrong Forgiveness to me means you have remorse. Or you forgive me because I have remorse Otherwise, I picture a helium balloon and let go. I let go without malice but I don't see it as forgiveness Just my boring speel. ;) [/QUOTE]
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