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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 687682" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Sisters keeper, honestly, I've been divorced and both of us were able to heal from it, admit our wrongs to each other and stay friends. Goneboy, who never allowed any conversation, hurt my heart far more than ex, although with time I went through the grieving steps and am at peace. I think it is harder to let go of abusivev adult child if they still choose to hang around and abuse than if they just leave. Then it is processed more like a death, although you are glad they are still alive, even without you. I am grateful for his and his wife's reasons, deciding to disappear. They did so completely and never showed me their children. I don't know those kids so it's impossible to miss them.</p><p>It may not have been intentional. but he did me a kindness. By being totally not there for TEN years or more, it is possible to grieve and move on. Well, I did meet him once at his church, hoping to reconcile, but he and she were so mean and full of such puzzling feelings about what I allegedly did, I couldn't wait to leave. It just helped me see that we are better a part. That was my very last attempt to reach out and gave closure.</p><p></p><p>After fifteen years or so on this board I also think it helps that I have four other kids and two grandkids. I hurt for the moms of only children. Really bleed and feel badly.</p><p></p><p>Find other loved ones maybe young enough to be kids, then you can or enjoy being mom to grown kids. DNA is just a scientific fact...in my opinion it does not top love. Many of us have adopted kids whom we'd easily take a bullet for. My adopted kids are so incredibly loving. I would kill or die for them....I love with the fierceness of all mothers and do not favor my one DNA son. Love is love and so hard to define....it doesn't require that we give birth.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 687682, member: 1550"] Sisters keeper, honestly, I've been divorced and both of us were able to heal from it, admit our wrongs to each other and stay friends. Goneboy, who never allowed any conversation, hurt my heart far more than ex, although with time I went through the grieving steps and am at peace. I think it is harder to let go of abusivev adult child if they still choose to hang around and abuse than if they just leave. Then it is processed more like a death, although you are glad they are still alive, even without you. I am grateful for his and his wife's reasons, deciding to disappear. They did so completely and never showed me their children. I don't know those kids so it's impossible to miss them. It may not have been intentional. but he did me a kindness. By being totally not there for TEN years or more, it is possible to grieve and move on. Well, I did meet him once at his church, hoping to reconcile, but he and she were so mean and full of such puzzling feelings about what I allegedly did, I couldn't wait to leave. It just helped me see that we are better a part. That was my very last attempt to reach out and gave closure. After fifteen years or so on this board I also think it helps that I have four other kids and two grandkids. I hurt for the moms of only children. Really bleed and feel badly. Find other loved ones maybe young enough to be kids, then you can or enjoy being mom to grown kids. DNA is just a scientific fact...in my opinion it does not top love. Many of us have adopted kids whom we'd easily take a bullet for. My adopted kids are so incredibly loving. I would kill or die for them....I love with the fierceness of all mothers and do not favor my one DNA son. Love is love and so hard to define....it doesn't require that we give birth. [/QUOTE]
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