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Is it ever ok to just be "done?"
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 687803" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Hi Walrus, just catching up here. Is it ever okay to be done? I think it is. I think we reach the end of our tolerance, and most of we moms have an overabundance of tolerance, and there. is. just. no. more. </p><p></p><p>And I think that is really a good day for us and for them. I don't think it is bad at all. Everything has its limits. We do, too.</p><p></p><p>I think about what Tanya has been through with her son and what she wrote here for you about that. Sometimes you just have to step away for a short time or a long time. You've just had enough.</p><p></p><p>And it sounds like for you, every single interaction is a negative one. There are no positive balances from her, so what, truly, is there for you to do? Going back again and again for the same treatment ultimately just doesn't make any sense for us. </p><p></p><p>And there comes the value of One Day At A Time. Who knows if she will ever change? She may or she may not. You can decide that "just for today" this is going to be how it is. You are done, and what does "done" look like for your life in terms of her.</p><p></p><p>Is it sad? Will you grieve? Maybe or maybe not. Maybe you will just feel relief for a long while. </p><p></p><p>Whatever it is, I hope you will accept yourself and work through any residual guilt or shame you might be feeling because of this. </p><p></p><p>I say it's a healthy choice, especially in the situation you are describing. Hang in there. Maybe you're about to get a long break from this. It's your choice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 687803, member: 17542"] Hi Walrus, just catching up here. Is it ever okay to be done? I think it is. I think we reach the end of our tolerance, and most of we moms have an overabundance of tolerance, and there. is. just. no. more. And I think that is really a good day for us and for them. I don't think it is bad at all. Everything has its limits. We do, too. I think about what Tanya has been through with her son and what she wrote here for you about that. Sometimes you just have to step away for a short time or a long time. You've just had enough. And it sounds like for you, every single interaction is a negative one. There are no positive balances from her, so what, truly, is there for you to do? Going back again and again for the same treatment ultimately just doesn't make any sense for us. And there comes the value of One Day At A Time. Who knows if she will ever change? She may or she may not. You can decide that "just for today" this is going to be how it is. You are done, and what does "done" look like for your life in terms of her. Is it sad? Will you grieve? Maybe or maybe not. Maybe you will just feel relief for a long while. Whatever it is, I hope you will accept yourself and work through any residual guilt or shame you might be feeling because of this. I say it's a healthy choice, especially in the situation you are describing. Hang in there. Maybe you're about to get a long break from this. It's your choice. [/QUOTE]
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