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Is it ever ok to just be "done?"
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<blockquote data-quote="Ironbutterfly" data-source="post: 688342" data-attributes="member: 19951"><p>I have no clue if this is a Buddhist idea. It's just how I have come to understand how I need to separate myself from my son and his life and his choices. I, for many years, felt the need to be there, fix everything, every drama, lost sleep, lost weight, put him first to care for before other children and husband. To always carry the guilt on my back that he was born mentally impaired ( due to oxygen deprivation, long labor, he was 12# when born by emergency c-section after 2 days of hard labor/and or ex husband beat me while pregnant). </p><p></p><p>He is intelligent enough to know right from wrong, to know how "lie", to "manipulate" to always blame things on every one else. He knew how to hook me back in "emotionally" with fears of being killed on the street, going to jail, drugs, etc. It wasn't until I came here about 6 months ago and read the articles on detachment, the life stories from other folks here that the light-bulb came on of what I needed to do going forward with my son. I was simply exhausted. My health, sanity has returned and I find joy in every day and I no longer live on the edge of "next phone call" drama and feeling the need I need to fix whatever is happening to him, with him. When he calls I listen to a point, if he goes into too much drama, I stop the conversation and say, listen I love you, but I have to go. I don't allow myself to get sucked back into all of it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ironbutterfly, post: 688342, member: 19951"] I have no clue if this is a Buddhist idea. It's just how I have come to understand how I need to separate myself from my son and his life and his choices. I, for many years, felt the need to be there, fix everything, every drama, lost sleep, lost weight, put him first to care for before other children and husband. To always carry the guilt on my back that he was born mentally impaired ( due to oxygen deprivation, long labor, he was 12# when born by emergency c-section after 2 days of hard labor/and or ex husband beat me while pregnant). He is intelligent enough to know right from wrong, to know how "lie", to "manipulate" to always blame things on every one else. He knew how to hook me back in "emotionally" with fears of being killed on the street, going to jail, drugs, etc. It wasn't until I came here about 6 months ago and read the articles on detachment, the life stories from other folks here that the light-bulb came on of what I needed to do going forward with my son. I was simply exhausted. My health, sanity has returned and I find joy in every day and I no longer live on the edge of "next phone call" drama and feeling the need I need to fix whatever is happening to him, with him. When he calls I listen to a point, if he goes into too much drama, I stop the conversation and say, listen I love you, but I have to go. I don't allow myself to get sucked back into all of it. [/QUOTE]
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