Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Is it ever ok to just be "done?"
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="SuperG" data-source="post: 688428" data-attributes="member: 19130"><p>So many profound thoughts and statements on this thread - - it will be read and re-read by many of us I'm sure <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>My response to the question "Is it ok to be done?".... I can in all honesty say I CAN be DONE with my grown Difficult Child. And be perfectly ok with it. Being DONE with her, however, just isn't possible since I have 4 grandchildren that I can't be done with. </p><p></p><p>Every single day I battle the "what's the best way to react?", "how can I do what's best for the grands without interacting with her more than I already have to anyway?", "how can I tell her what's really on my mind, without starting a war and making things worse?".... EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Never a break from the "what did I do to make her this way?" and other crazy analytical ruminating catastrophizing notions that rule my brain. She's brought 4 little people into this world, and selfishly carries on with her man/men, while they raise themselves. </p><p></p><p>So yes, I can be done with her. Nothing I could do for her would ever make a difference. In fact, I think she'd be more likely to make some changes for the better (maybe) if I could move to the other side of the country and let the chips fall where they may. But I can't walk away from my grandkids. The tiny people our DCs make are the real victims. I never in a million years would have ever thought I'd be saying all this a mere 12 years ago.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuperG, post: 688428, member: 19130"] So many profound thoughts and statements on this thread - - it will be read and re-read by many of us I'm sure :-) My response to the question "Is it ok to be done?".... I can in all honesty say I CAN be DONE with my grown Difficult Child. And be perfectly ok with it. Being DONE with her, however, just isn't possible since I have 4 grandchildren that I can't be done with. Every single day I battle the "what's the best way to react?", "how can I do what's best for the grands without interacting with her more than I already have to anyway?", "how can I tell her what's really on my mind, without starting a war and making things worse?".... EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Never a break from the "what did I do to make her this way?" and other crazy analytical ruminating catastrophizing notions that rule my brain. She's brought 4 little people into this world, and selfishly carries on with her man/men, while they raise themselves. So yes, I can be done with her. Nothing I could do for her would ever make a difference. In fact, I think she'd be more likely to make some changes for the better (maybe) if I could move to the other side of the country and let the chips fall where they may. But I can't walk away from my grandkids. The tiny people our DCs make are the real victims. I never in a million years would have ever thought I'd be saying all this a mere 12 years ago. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Is it ever ok to just be "done?"
Top