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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 237807" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Hi Jennifer--</p><p> </p><p>No, it's not just you--but I also do not see this as an issue of your ex being especially a jerk here, some of it I interpret as a Dad vs Mom thing. </p><p> </p><p>Moms are ALWAYS more cautious about everything: buttoning coats, washing hands, eating healthy snacks, etc etc etc And Dads tend to be a little more lax about these same issues. So I am sure that he does not see the big deal out of letting her sleep in her clothes or riding in the front seat...He is just not sweating what he perceives as "the small stuff".</p><p> </p><p>The knives on the other hand....I can only imagine that ex-mother in law does not think difficult child's issues are too serious, and hey, she's nine years old and SHOULD be able to handle a little cooking lesson, and difficult child was probably especially attentive and excited about helping Grandma. And maybe, in Grandma's kitchen , it was actually OK.</p><p> </p><p>I would not make a big deal out of the clothes or the car because it will only make you look like the "bad guy" who's being unreasonable...and the ex's family will take you less seriously whenever there's a big issue that you really do have to make a stink about.</p><p> </p><p>As for the knives, I would probably make the rule "No Knives unless Grandma is helping you." You KNOW that Grandma will continue to let difficult child help in the kitchen (no matter what you say)...and if you act like it's OK with you, but ONLY if Grandma is helping, then maybe difficult child will insist that Grandma always helps with the cutting--even if it's a pizza knife.</p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry that things are working out this way...</p><p> </p><p>--DaisyF</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 237807, member: 6546"] Hi Jennifer-- No, it's not just you--but I also do not see this as an issue of your ex being especially a jerk here, some of it I interpret as a Dad vs Mom thing. Moms are ALWAYS more cautious about everything: buttoning coats, washing hands, eating healthy snacks, etc etc etc And Dads tend to be a little more lax about these same issues. So I am sure that he does not see the big deal out of letting her sleep in her clothes or riding in the front seat...He is just not sweating what he perceives as "the small stuff". The knives on the other hand....I can only imagine that ex-mother in law does not think difficult child's issues are too serious, and hey, she's nine years old and SHOULD be able to handle a little cooking lesson, and difficult child was probably especially attentive and excited about helping Grandma. And maybe, in Grandma's kitchen , it was actually OK. I would not make a big deal out of the clothes or the car because it will only make you look like the "bad guy" who's being unreasonable...and the ex's family will take you less seriously whenever there's a big issue that you really do have to make a stink about. As for the knives, I would probably make the rule "No Knives unless Grandma is helping you." You KNOW that Grandma will continue to let difficult child help in the kitchen (no matter what you say)...and if you act like it's OK with you, but ONLY if Grandma is helping, then maybe difficult child will insist that Grandma always helps with the cutting--even if it's a pizza knife. I'm sorry that things are working out this way... --DaisyF [/QUOTE]
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