that I've detached too much from my mother? I'm upset for her that she is dying but I'm not consumed by it as I would expect someone would be when a loved one is diagnosis'd with a terminal illness. I know I'll be sad when she dies and I don't want her to suffer through her last days but I'm not shaken by this. It's making me feel a little guilty and cold-hearted. I've been pretty calm about this and approaching things from a practical standpoint. I'm not close with her, I doubt I ever will be, and I'm not surprised that she's in bad enough health to be dying. It is what it is. husband said that perhaps she has already died to me in many ways and so maybe I can more easily accept her physical death. But not being more upset is upsetting me, Know what I mean?? Shouldn't I be more upset?