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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 579238" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It all depends on your state's laws. I know some states say that if there is more than either three or four years between them, the relationship is illegal (statutory) if they have sex. Up to actual intercourse though, parents usually cannot do much. In some states once a person is past a certain age, sometimes sixteen or seventeen, there is nothing preventing them from having a relationship with anyone of any age. I don't know if the law here in OK has changed in the last couple of decades, but I know for a long long time a girl of either fourteen or fifteen could get married with parental consent and a boy could get married with parental consent after age sixteen. I always thought that was twisted and wrong. I actually knew a girl who got preg on purpose by her 36 yo 'boyfriend' and she was enraged when they said they still would not give consent for the marriage. </p><p></p><p>I would do a background check on him, one you pay a fee for so that you get more info. I would look for any criminal record, etc.... I am quite sorry she is making this choice and you don't like him. The more you let her know you don't like him, the more she will want him. One of my friend's in hs had parents who played htis perfectly. They invited her boyfriends to the house, her dad took some of them fishing, her mom would go shopping with them. For her, having her parents like the guy meant she lost interest FAST. The guys generally did not, but after the boys started coming to the house and not wanting to rush out because they were having a conversation or helping with a project wtih her dad or doing something for her mom (a very short woman, so often these boys helped her get things off shelves, hang pictures, etc...), it really angered her and she would break up wtih them.</p><p></p><p>I always thought that was funny, esp because I knew her folks did it on purpose. But the more mom and dad approve, well, the more a difficult child or rebellious teen doesn't want anything to do with them. Not sure if you could manage this or not, but it is an idea. It is esp funny when the guy starts wanting to just watch tv in the same room wtih the parents rather than going out with the girl to someplace 'fun' (which often means expensive to a teen budget, of course).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 579238, member: 1233"] It all depends on your state's laws. I know some states say that if there is more than either three or four years between them, the relationship is illegal (statutory) if they have sex. Up to actual intercourse though, parents usually cannot do much. In some states once a person is past a certain age, sometimes sixteen or seventeen, there is nothing preventing them from having a relationship with anyone of any age. I don't know if the law here in OK has changed in the last couple of decades, but I know for a long long time a girl of either fourteen or fifteen could get married with parental consent and a boy could get married with parental consent after age sixteen. I always thought that was twisted and wrong. I actually knew a girl who got preg on purpose by her 36 yo 'boyfriend' and she was enraged when they said they still would not give consent for the marriage. I would do a background check on him, one you pay a fee for so that you get more info. I would look for any criminal record, etc.... I am quite sorry she is making this choice and you don't like him. The more you let her know you don't like him, the more she will want him. One of my friend's in hs had parents who played htis perfectly. They invited her boyfriends to the house, her dad took some of them fishing, her mom would go shopping with them. For her, having her parents like the guy meant she lost interest FAST. The guys generally did not, but after the boys started coming to the house and not wanting to rush out because they were having a conversation or helping with a project wtih her dad or doing something for her mom (a very short woman, so often these boys helped her get things off shelves, hang pictures, etc...), it really angered her and she would break up wtih them. I always thought that was funny, esp because I knew her folks did it on purpose. But the more mom and dad approve, well, the more a difficult child or rebellious teen doesn't want anything to do with them. Not sure if you could manage this or not, but it is an idea. It is esp funny when the guy starts wanting to just watch tv in the same room wtih the parents rather than going out with the girl to someplace 'fun' (which often means expensive to a teen budget, of course). [/QUOTE]
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