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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 579395" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Each of us has to make our own choices and then cross our fingers, pray, etc. etc. that we choose the right option. I personally would make my first priority a trip to the gynecologist. Do call first and give them a "heads up" so time is spent on the various diseases that often result from sexual contact etc. etc. It's important to take your daughter there <strong>without </strong>conversations about boyfriend on the way. Keep a pleasant parental demeanor. It will get her attention for sure. Having a physician examine all your private parts certainly cuts down on the hormonal fantasies a bit!</p><p></p><p>Calling the boys parents would not be a choice I'd make unless I actually knew them. GFGmom found her first boyfriend when she was almost sixteen. He was clean, handsome, polite and his Mom spoke well, was friendly (we met at track practice) and complimentary. Turned out her sons were allowed to do whatever they wanted to do so long as the bedroom door was closed. WTH! Parenting methods vary too much for me to trust unknown adults.</p><p></p><p>What's "the right answer?" I've raised eight teens and I still don't know. The one thing I do know is that for us it worked best (NOT perfectly..sigh) to keep "the friends close to our family". We included friends for meals, movies, snacks...even outings. We left "the couples" alone with the doors open and one of us or the other kids obviously nearby. We did not allow the girls to go in guys cars. We stressed to "the couples" that our family was close knit and we all kept in touch regularly. I told the girls that I remembered how wonderful and exciting it was to have a boyfriend as a teen........and I also remembered clearly how easy it was to make a mistake or use poor judgement.</p><p>Lastly I always added that kissing etc. in public was not acceptable as it could ruin reputations for years to come, it often caused embarrassment to others AND then added "picture how you would feel if Dad and I started making out in public!"</p><p></p><p>Good luck. It's a bummer. been there done that. Survived...with scars, lol. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 579395, member: 35"] Each of us has to make our own choices and then cross our fingers, pray, etc. etc. that we choose the right option. I personally would make my first priority a trip to the gynecologist. Do call first and give them a "heads up" so time is spent on the various diseases that often result from sexual contact etc. etc. It's important to take your daughter there [B]without [/B]conversations about boyfriend on the way. Keep a pleasant parental demeanor. It will get her attention for sure. Having a physician examine all your private parts certainly cuts down on the hormonal fantasies a bit! Calling the boys parents would not be a choice I'd make unless I actually knew them. GFGmom found her first boyfriend when she was almost sixteen. He was clean, handsome, polite and his Mom spoke well, was friendly (we met at track practice) and complimentary. Turned out her sons were allowed to do whatever they wanted to do so long as the bedroom door was closed. WTH! Parenting methods vary too much for me to trust unknown adults. What's "the right answer?" I've raised eight teens and I still don't know. The one thing I do know is that for us it worked best (NOT perfectly..sigh) to keep "the friends close to our family". We included friends for meals, movies, snacks...even outings. We left "the couples" alone with the doors open and one of us or the other kids obviously nearby. We did not allow the girls to go in guys cars. We stressed to "the couples" that our family was close knit and we all kept in touch regularly. I told the girls that I remembered how wonderful and exciting it was to have a boyfriend as a teen........and I also remembered clearly how easy it was to make a mistake or use poor judgement. Lastly I always added that kissing etc. in public was not acceptable as it could ruin reputations for years to come, it often caused embarrassment to others AND then added "picture how you would feel if Dad and I started making out in public!" Good luck. It's a bummer. been there done that. Survived...with scars, lol. DDD [/QUOTE]
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