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<blockquote data-quote="ksm" data-source="post: 580047" data-attributes="member: 12511"><p>I thought I would give an update about difficult child/boyfriend and what we are doing. He has been invited over for dinner tonight. difficult child was upset because he had told her he would like to take her out for dinner on Valentine's Day. Even if we were to let her go on a "real date" (which we would not do at age 14 and probably not 15 with the way she is acting) I don't think that statement actually meant he would have been able to take her out and also pay for a meal! Anyway, it sounds like he is coming over for supper. And while I am dreading it, I will put on my happy face.</p><p></p><p>On another note, last night difficult child was awful. She was outside with little sis, and playing two square (little sis favorite thing to do) and I guess wasn't playing as well against little sis... so she said FU to little sis. husband was outside grilling hamburgers in the back yard and heard it. So he talked to her, I stayed out of it, and she stomped off to her room ranting and raving. No one was upstairs, but I could hear her. "Every thing in this house revolves around (little sis) she gets her way, she doesn't get in trouble, blah, blah, blah but I say one thing and blah, blah blah" Well, she quieted down before dinner and we started the meal and husband mentioned that he did not want to hear either one of them use those types of words. Then her excuse was "I had a bad day, and when I have a bad day, I can't help what I say. You should know that!" Next was "Everyone knows that teen girls get irritable around that time of the month, it's not my fault that I am irritable. It just happens to some girls each month and they say things like that". You get the lovely picture. </p><p></p><p>husband gave her two options as a consequence of her behavior... lose iPod for 1 day or radio for 2 days... then she actually said "neither one of those things are an acceptable consequence" Geesh. We had already turned off wi-fi during supper so didn't turn it back on. I decided that maybe we would just take away both items overnight and she would start out fresh in the morning. </p><p></p><p>On the way to school, after dropping off little sis, I tried to talk to her again. I tried to explain to her that when she is caught doing something wrong, the appropriate response is to acknowledge the behavior, apologize for the behavior, and then stop the behavior in the future, or that future consequences are much worse. She kind of got "irritated again" and said "I know I behaved like a butt last night and I apologized" I said, "when did you apologize?" She replies "just then... I said I behaved like a butt last night!" Oh, the difficult child-ness of it all. If we hadn't already invited this kid over I would have just forgot about the supper altogether!. Maybe I should have anyway. </p><p></p><p>Will update later tonight or tomorrow how it all goes tonight... I should get an academy award for my acting tonight. KSM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ksm, post: 580047, member: 12511"] I thought I would give an update about difficult child/boyfriend and what we are doing. He has been invited over for dinner tonight. difficult child was upset because he had told her he would like to take her out for dinner on Valentine's Day. Even if we were to let her go on a "real date" (which we would not do at age 14 and probably not 15 with the way she is acting) I don't think that statement actually meant he would have been able to take her out and also pay for a meal! Anyway, it sounds like he is coming over for supper. And while I am dreading it, I will put on my happy face. On another note, last night difficult child was awful. She was outside with little sis, and playing two square (little sis favorite thing to do) and I guess wasn't playing as well against little sis... so she said FU to little sis. husband was outside grilling hamburgers in the back yard and heard it. So he talked to her, I stayed out of it, and she stomped off to her room ranting and raving. No one was upstairs, but I could hear her. "Every thing in this house revolves around (little sis) she gets her way, she doesn't get in trouble, blah, blah, blah but I say one thing and blah, blah blah" Well, she quieted down before dinner and we started the meal and husband mentioned that he did not want to hear either one of them use those types of words. Then her excuse was "I had a bad day, and when I have a bad day, I can't help what I say. You should know that!" Next was "Everyone knows that teen girls get irritable around that time of the month, it's not my fault that I am irritable. It just happens to some girls each month and they say things like that". You get the lovely picture. husband gave her two options as a consequence of her behavior... lose iPod for 1 day or radio for 2 days... then she actually said "neither one of those things are an acceptable consequence" Geesh. We had already turned off wi-fi during supper so didn't turn it back on. I decided that maybe we would just take away both items overnight and she would start out fresh in the morning. On the way to school, after dropping off little sis, I tried to talk to her again. I tried to explain to her that when she is caught doing something wrong, the appropriate response is to acknowledge the behavior, apologize for the behavior, and then stop the behavior in the future, or that future consequences are much worse. She kind of got "irritated again" and said "I know I behaved like a butt last night and I apologized" I said, "when did you apologize?" She replies "just then... I said I behaved like a butt last night!" Oh, the difficult child-ness of it all. If we hadn't already invited this kid over I would have just forgot about the supper altogether!. Maybe I should have anyway. Will update later tonight or tomorrow how it all goes tonight... I should get an academy award for my acting tonight. KSM [/QUOTE]
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