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Is there a lock-in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for 17 yo?
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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 469516" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Most states have different ages of consent for psychiatric treatment. Here in IL, it's the ripe old age of 13 (I think - might be 12 - ridiculous in either case). Which means.... a minor child that you are legally responsible for can refuse any and all psychiatric treatment. Talk about a rock and a hard place... Here in IL, RTCs cannot be locked down, period.</p><p></p><p>I can only second Step's advice to call police for any violence, property damage, breaking curfew, terroristic threats, etc. I would also steel yourself for the ordeal of kicking him out (some jurisdictions require you actually legally evict an adult child - best to check on that now), and I would also make it very clear to him that unless he gets his act together, at 18 it will be "Happy birthday, honey, and here's your bags." </p><p></p><p>Obviously, remove any access he has to money, cars, etc. You are required to provide basic needs - food, shelter, clothing (your choice, not his). Anything else is gravy. If you still have valuables left in the home, lock them up. </p><p></p><p>The cold hard fact is that until he is willing and committed to getting treatment, you can do absolutely *nothing* to help him. It will tear your heart out. </p><p></p><p>My son was in RTCs from age 9 to 18. At 18, we refused to let him come home. At 18-1/2, we begged him to - he lasted 36 hours. Basically was homeless/couch surfing from 18 to 20. Horrible *horrible* years. At 20, the light came on for him (kinda). He's been home since June, not in treatment but not using (to my eye anyway), follows rules, got his GED, in college now. But he had to hit rock bottom, and he did... hard. Darn near killed me to watch, but I had to remember that if I could have "fixed" him, it would've been done a loooong time ago.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 469516, member: 8"] Most states have different ages of consent for psychiatric treatment. Here in IL, it's the ripe old age of 13 (I think - might be 12 - ridiculous in either case). Which means.... a minor child that you are legally responsible for can refuse any and all psychiatric treatment. Talk about a rock and a hard place... Here in IL, RTCs cannot be locked down, period. I can only second Step's advice to call police for any violence, property damage, breaking curfew, terroristic threats, etc. I would also steel yourself for the ordeal of kicking him out (some jurisdictions require you actually legally evict an adult child - best to check on that now), and I would also make it very clear to him that unless he gets his act together, at 18 it will be "Happy birthday, honey, and here's your bags." Obviously, remove any access he has to money, cars, etc. You are required to provide basic needs - food, shelter, clothing (your choice, not his). Anything else is gravy. If you still have valuables left in the home, lock them up. The cold hard fact is that until he is willing and committed to getting treatment, you can do absolutely *nothing* to help him. It will tear your heart out. My son was in RTCs from age 9 to 18. At 18, we refused to let him come home. At 18-1/2, we begged him to - he lasted 36 hours. Basically was homeless/couch surfing from 18 to 20. Horrible *horrible* years. At 20, the light came on for him (kinda). He's been home since June, not in treatment but not using (to my eye anyway), follows rules, got his GED, in college now. But he had to hit rock bottom, and he did... hard. Darn near killed me to watch, but I had to remember that if I could have "fixed" him, it would've been done a loooong time ago. Hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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