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Is there a lock-in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for 17 yo?
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<blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 474875"><p>thomasc, help me understand your point: if a difficult child is, let us say, punching holes in walls, brutalizing parents, stealing their money, and so on, you're arguing that his parents should not send him away to a lock-in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because he will be taken away coercively, and held there coercively, and the concern should be that he might "lose any remaining respect for adults and have a grudge against them" for "putting him through hell"? I am seriously trying to understand this: he does all of this at home and yet should not be sent away to a lock-in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because he might be coerced to stay there and then feel angry when he comes home? What about accountability? What about his agency in terms of putting his parents in so bad a situation that this is the best option remaining to them, for their own and their other childrens' safety? What about concern for the parents and their other children and their property and belongings? Accountability flows both ways. What about what the difficult child did to put his parents in this situation in the first place? Should they just let him stay at home and keep doing this, out of fear that he might return more angry than he left? That doesn't seem reasonable at all. I appreciate the experience that you evidently had in such a Residential Treatment Center (RTC), but what about the parents and the limited options that they had available to them? And what about the difficult child's accountability for getting himself into that situation in the first place? These parents are just trying to protect themselves, their children, and their property. You've got to respect their dire situation that brought them to the difficult position of sending their difficult child away in the first place.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrsammler, post: 474875"] thomasc, help me understand your point: if a difficult child is, let us say, punching holes in walls, brutalizing parents, stealing their money, and so on, you're arguing that his parents should not send him away to a lock-in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because he will be taken away coercively, and held there coercively, and the concern should be that he might "lose any remaining respect for adults and have a grudge against them" for "putting him through hell"? I am seriously trying to understand this: he does all of this at home and yet should not be sent away to a lock-in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because he might be coerced to stay there and then feel angry when he comes home? What about accountability? What about his agency in terms of putting his parents in so bad a situation that this is the best option remaining to them, for their own and their other childrens' safety? What about concern for the parents and their other children and their property and belongings? Accountability flows both ways. What about what the difficult child did to put his parents in this situation in the first place? Should they just let him stay at home and keep doing this, out of fear that he might return more angry than he left? That doesn't seem reasonable at all. I appreciate the experience that you evidently had in such a Residential Treatment Center (RTC), but what about the parents and the limited options that they had available to them? And what about the difficult child's accountability for getting himself into that situation in the first place? These parents are just trying to protect themselves, their children, and their property. You've got to respect their dire situation that brought them to the difficult position of sending their difficult child away in the first place. [/QUOTE]
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