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After numerous delays and three prosecutors, we finally went to court last week. difficult child took the stand and described in detail how a neighborhood boy raped and molested her. The judge ruled two days later in favor of the defendant. It seemed the crux of the case was that her counselor believed that some physical and sexual abuse came from her father and not entirely the defendant. Wonderful.
Around noon last Friday I heard loud smashing and banging sounds coming from the living room. Turns out difficult child had early dismissal that day due to conferences at school. She had just gotten home and was throwing her backpack and flute case around while lifting the loveseat to let it slam down. She kicks the flute case into the dining room table. I tell her to calm down then ask whats wrong. She wouldn't say a word to me after multiple attempts. So I take the flute from the ground and began to walk off with it. difficult child then pushes me and grabbed the flute from me in a moment of disbelief. Oh yeah, this is also just a few hours before she goes to pedo-dad's for the weekend.
Then there was another incident picking her up on Sunday. Unfortunately I had to work so I couldn't go with so it was just SO and easy child #2. Liz (pedo-dad's new wife) came out to them about Thanksgiving. Mind you, the only form of contact they're supposed to have with us is through email. She said that they were entitled to have difficult child for Thanksgiving and Christmas this year according to the parenting plan. SO asked her if she could provide us with a copy of the parenting plan as SO didn't have one on hand to view. She then went into the house to get it but returned shortly after without it. She said her son was on the computer and would wait for him to get off.
She told SO she will pickup difficult child on the 26th of November. SO told her no. She was visibly angry at this point and began yelling at SO from here on out. SO stated that 9 a.m. was fine on Thursday and that she could bring difficult child back on Friday the 28th at 9 a.m. Liz then threatened SO that she will call her attorney and take her back to court to change the parenting plan "so that we would not get what we wanted out of the parenting plan." SO asked why Liz felt it was her place to take control over everything telling me what was going to happen. SO asked her why she always addressed the parenting plan or about things regarding brett (pedophile, rapist, ex-husband) in front of her children. She became even more irrate saying that she can't talk on the phone as she doesn't have our number. They only contact they are approved to have with us is email or through difficult child in an emergency. She has our email and hasn't contacted us on the approved medium for almost six months. Liz then said it was her role to take control becase we refuse to speak with brett.
easy child #2 spoke out and told Liz she has no idea of what he did to us, how much her hurt us and that is what we desire zero contact with him. Liz started to scream at easy child #2 about how she understood because her ex-husband was abusive toward her. As she was shouting at easy child #2 to shut her mouth, brett appeared at easy child #2's side of the car. easy child #2 jumped towards SO at the sight of him and began to cry. He screamed at easy child and SO three times that they were going to "fsck our worlds up." Liz then told him to go back in the house. SO mentioned to Liz this is why she fears for difficult child's safety while in his care. SO is scared of the threats he continues to make toward us. SO is still terrified of what he very may well do. SO questioned Liz towards the threats we just received and she said he made no such comment. Liz then said "Well, you know he has a short temper." This is all the more reason we fear for difficult child's safety. SO then demanded they bring difficult child to the car now so we could leave. Once again, she threatened us by saying she was going to take me to court.
SO, easy child #2 and difficult child were all a mess on the ride home of course. difficult child yelled at them saying it was their fault. SO, in an emotional blur, told difficult child her father isn't a great man like she thinks. She began to tell her about the abuse she and her sisters received. difficult child said she didn't care and that he wouldn't do that to her and how he has changed.
Plus difficult child outwardly expresses her dislike of being here. She has been telling various neighbors no one can pick her up and needs to stay there homes till 8 p.m. every night.
So how do you deal with a child who is often violent and doesn't care that her father raped, molested and abused her mother and sisters?
Around noon last Friday I heard loud smashing and banging sounds coming from the living room. Turns out difficult child had early dismissal that day due to conferences at school. She had just gotten home and was throwing her backpack and flute case around while lifting the loveseat to let it slam down. She kicks the flute case into the dining room table. I tell her to calm down then ask whats wrong. She wouldn't say a word to me after multiple attempts. So I take the flute from the ground and began to walk off with it. difficult child then pushes me and grabbed the flute from me in a moment of disbelief. Oh yeah, this is also just a few hours before she goes to pedo-dad's for the weekend.
Then there was another incident picking her up on Sunday. Unfortunately I had to work so I couldn't go with so it was just SO and easy child #2. Liz (pedo-dad's new wife) came out to them about Thanksgiving. Mind you, the only form of contact they're supposed to have with us is through email. She said that they were entitled to have difficult child for Thanksgiving and Christmas this year according to the parenting plan. SO asked her if she could provide us with a copy of the parenting plan as SO didn't have one on hand to view. She then went into the house to get it but returned shortly after without it. She said her son was on the computer and would wait for him to get off.
She told SO she will pickup difficult child on the 26th of November. SO told her no. She was visibly angry at this point and began yelling at SO from here on out. SO stated that 9 a.m. was fine on Thursday and that she could bring difficult child back on Friday the 28th at 9 a.m. Liz then threatened SO that she will call her attorney and take her back to court to change the parenting plan "so that we would not get what we wanted out of the parenting plan." SO asked why Liz felt it was her place to take control over everything telling me what was going to happen. SO asked her why she always addressed the parenting plan or about things regarding brett (pedophile, rapist, ex-husband) in front of her children. She became even more irrate saying that she can't talk on the phone as she doesn't have our number. They only contact they are approved to have with us is email or through difficult child in an emergency. She has our email and hasn't contacted us on the approved medium for almost six months. Liz then said it was her role to take control becase we refuse to speak with brett.
easy child #2 spoke out and told Liz she has no idea of what he did to us, how much her hurt us and that is what we desire zero contact with him. Liz started to scream at easy child #2 about how she understood because her ex-husband was abusive toward her. As she was shouting at easy child #2 to shut her mouth, brett appeared at easy child #2's side of the car. easy child #2 jumped towards SO at the sight of him and began to cry. He screamed at easy child and SO three times that they were going to "fsck our worlds up." Liz then told him to go back in the house. SO mentioned to Liz this is why she fears for difficult child's safety while in his care. SO is scared of the threats he continues to make toward us. SO is still terrified of what he very may well do. SO questioned Liz towards the threats we just received and she said he made no such comment. Liz then said "Well, you know he has a short temper." This is all the more reason we fear for difficult child's safety. SO then demanded they bring difficult child to the car now so we could leave. Once again, she threatened us by saying she was going to take me to court.
SO, easy child #2 and difficult child were all a mess on the ride home of course. difficult child yelled at them saying it was their fault. SO, in an emotional blur, told difficult child her father isn't a great man like she thinks. She began to tell her about the abuse she and her sisters received. difficult child said she didn't care and that he wouldn't do that to her and how he has changed.
Plus difficult child outwardly expresses her dislike of being here. She has been telling various neighbors no one can pick her up and needs to stay there homes till 8 p.m. every night.
So how do you deal with a child who is often violent and doesn't care that her father raped, molested and abused her mother and sisters?
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