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Is there a time we can and should say good-bye to our past?
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 664558" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I have that void place. Granddaughters and I were discussing how it feels to have been through what each has been through. For them, the place no one can be with them has to do with the uniqueness of their experiences. They have been emotional places alone, and there is no one, certainly no one in their peer groups, who can empathize.</p><p></p><p>Or even imagine it.</p><p></p><p>Ten thousand betrayals on every level and yet, they love and are loved by the mother (and grandmother too, in some ways) who have not protected them. </p><p></p><p>Even here, where we share so much, each of us brings her unique experience and perspective, but we cannot heal for one another.</p><p></p><p>I have learned that so much of what you post comes real for me over time, too. So maybe I will not have that void in me either, in time. That could be. It has something to do with trust. I am seeing D H differently, am coming to believe he could love me ~ that there could be a kind of love, between a man and a woman, having to do with commitment or with loyalty across time.</p><p></p><p>The void place was created for surviving betrayal.</p><p></p><p>From having been alone, and from having survived betrayals that most people have no frame of reference to understand.</p><p></p><p>My grandchildren are very wise, to know that and to be able to define and name it.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 664558, member: 17461"] I have that void place. Granddaughters and I were discussing how it feels to have been through what each has been through. For them, the place no one can be with them has to do with the uniqueness of their experiences. They have been emotional places alone, and there is no one, certainly no one in their peer groups, who can empathize. Or even imagine it. Ten thousand betrayals on every level and yet, they love and are loved by the mother (and grandmother too, in some ways) who have not protected them. Even here, where we share so much, each of us brings her unique experience and perspective, but we cannot heal for one another. I have learned that so much of what you post comes real for me over time, too. So maybe I will not have that void in me either, in time. That could be. It has something to do with trust. I am seeing D H differently, am coming to believe he could love me ~ that there could be a kind of love, between a man and a woman, having to do with commitment or with loyalty across time. The void place was created for surviving betrayal. From having been alone, and from having survived betrayals that most people have no frame of reference to understand. My grandchildren are very wise, to know that and to be able to define and name it. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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