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<blockquote data-quote="pinevalley" data-source="post: 506432" data-attributes="member: 3710"><p>Welcome to this community, Nice Lady,</p><p></p><p>You have come to a good place, because you will find a lot of advice and support here. </p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry that you and your parents are in this crisis with your son. I also have an 18 year old son who is addicted to marijuana, so I can understand your pain. In many ways your story sounds a lot like mine, because my son is also just a few months from graduating from high school. His personality has been completely changed by his drug use, and he is not the same boy that we once knew. He has no motivation except to hang out with his friends and use weed, and he absolutely refuses to go even go to school. This is a nightmare for my h and I, so I can understand what you are feeling. </p><p></p><p>My h and I felt that we had to establish clear rules about what we would not accept in our home. No drugs or drug paraphanalia (sp), and no alcohol use allowed at all. We do not let our son drive a car, he can not use a cell phone, and we absolutely never give him any money at all. This is very important, because whenever your parents give your son even a few dollars he probably just spends it on weed. I know that this will be hard for your parents to do, but they must be very firm about not giving him any money if he is still using. If you cut off his money supply your son might try to steal money or credit cards from you or your parents. Your parents will have to lock up their cash and credit cards in a secure place. We had to change the lock on our walk-closet to a lock with a key so that we could keep our son from stealing all the cash that we had in the house.</p><p></p><p>We made it very clear that if he was high from weed he would not be allowed to stay in our house. He still parties with his loser friends, but he does not come home to us, and instead stays with friends. This is not easy for us at all, but we are trying to make our son's life so difficult so that he realizes that he needs help for his drug problem. It is a very long process, and our son is still using weed, so I definitely do not have all the answers. </p><p></p><p>I hope that you can find a counselor or a therapist to help you deal with all the emotions that you are feeling now. To answer your title question, I really believe that there is hope for my son and for yours. It will not be easy, but we are all in this together. Sending you strength for the long battle ahead.....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pinevalley, post: 506432, member: 3710"] Welcome to this community, Nice Lady, You have come to a good place, because you will find a lot of advice and support here. I'm so sorry that you and your parents are in this crisis with your son. I also have an 18 year old son who is addicted to marijuana, so I can understand your pain. In many ways your story sounds a lot like mine, because my son is also just a few months from graduating from high school. His personality has been completely changed by his drug use, and he is not the same boy that we once knew. He has no motivation except to hang out with his friends and use weed, and he absolutely refuses to go even go to school. This is a nightmare for my h and I, so I can understand what you are feeling. My h and I felt that we had to establish clear rules about what we would not accept in our home. No drugs or drug paraphanalia (sp), and no alcohol use allowed at all. We do not let our son drive a car, he can not use a cell phone, and we absolutely never give him any money at all. This is very important, because whenever your parents give your son even a few dollars he probably just spends it on weed. I know that this will be hard for your parents to do, but they must be very firm about not giving him any money if he is still using. If you cut off his money supply your son might try to steal money or credit cards from you or your parents. Your parents will have to lock up their cash and credit cards in a secure place. We had to change the lock on our walk-closet to a lock with a key so that we could keep our son from stealing all the cash that we had in the house. We made it very clear that if he was high from weed he would not be allowed to stay in our house. He still parties with his loser friends, but he does not come home to us, and instead stays with friends. This is not easy for us at all, but we are trying to make our son's life so difficult so that he realizes that he needs help for his drug problem. It is a very long process, and our son is still using weed, so I definitely do not have all the answers. I hope that you can find a counselor or a therapist to help you deal with all the emotions that you are feeling now. To answer your title question, I really believe that there is hope for my son and for yours. It will not be easy, but we are all in this together. Sending you strength for the long battle ahead..... [/QUOTE]
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