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is there any way to recover positive feelings for difficult child?
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 591419" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>DF has some good advice. And by the way, when I want to feel close to my difficult child, I just remember when he was 3 or 4 and yes, definitely a difficult child, but had some very funny, cuddly moments. One was when he was following me around the house one day, saying, "Am I being good, Mommy? Am I being good?" I had tuned him out and suddenly, realized what he was saying. "Yes, you are being VERY good." Of course, only 3 min later he started to scream and climb on furniture ... but that sweet voice asking, "Am I being good?" will stay with-me forever. You are not in a spot where you are expected to feel close to difficult child. Everything she says takes you back to the last lie, and the one before that. There is too much baggage. I can hear your hurt and sorrow. The only thing I can suggest is to compartmentalize it, and save it for therapy (this is one of our most common topics and we have come a long way), and find something else to do that does not involved your difficult child. Work in the garden. Read a book. Pay bills. Doesn't matter. Just do something that only involves you. (Sorry for the run=on paragraph; this board won't let me make paragraph breaks this week.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 591419, member: 3419"] DF has some good advice. And by the way, when I want to feel close to my difficult child, I just remember when he was 3 or 4 and yes, definitely a difficult child, but had some very funny, cuddly moments. One was when he was following me around the house one day, saying, "Am I being good, Mommy? Am I being good?" I had tuned him out and suddenly, realized what he was saying. "Yes, you are being VERY good." Of course, only 3 min later he started to scream and climb on furniture ... but that sweet voice asking, "Am I being good?" will stay with-me forever. You are not in a spot where you are expected to feel close to difficult child. Everything she says takes you back to the last lie, and the one before that. There is too much baggage. I can hear your hurt and sorrow. The only thing I can suggest is to compartmentalize it, and save it for therapy (this is one of our most common topics and we have come a long way), and find something else to do that does not involved your difficult child. Work in the garden. Read a book. Pay bills. Doesn't matter. Just do something that only involves you. (Sorry for the run=on paragraph; this board won't let me make paragraph breaks this week.) [/QUOTE]
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