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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 697496" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>This is a very powerful image. We can probably all insert a mental picture of ourselves here, doing exactly the same thing or something allegorically the same. I'm going to store this in my tool box. A woman dragging her larger-than-her son out of bed, laying out his clothes, talking at the counsellour. A woman representing all of us. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Ouch. Me too. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I thought for a long time about getting a tattoo on my thumb, right where I would see it every time I sat at a computer, or picked up the phone, or reached for my coffee. I was going to write "he is not deaf." To remind me that the reason he is not taking my superb advice or taking advantage of the many many perfect solutions I have posed, is NOT because he is deaf. It is because he chooses not to do the things I say. I said them once. That is enough. He isn't deaf. </p><p></p><p>Gershbunny, I haven't given up hope for my lovely son. He spiralled for many years, starting about age 14, maybe earlier. So cute, so musically talented, so social..and now this. He is in jail now, after several years of being on the street. He calls me for 5 minutes a day. He is a real student of the news now, the politcal debates, sports, whatever. We have nice chats. We talk about his discharge (he has been discharge three times to monitored facilities because of mental health issues, and each time he has TOTALLY BOMBED OUT and gone straight back to jail..once he was picked up while pissing in an alley in the most dangerous neighborhood in our large city. My son. My lovely boy). I love him. I haven't given up hope. But I will be neither surprised nor crushed if this discharge isn't the charm either. I will keep on keeping on, and so will he, and so will our relationship. </p><p></p><p>We do not judge you at all in making the choices you do. We are here to support you in the difficult task of being mother to a lost son. We have all made many choices, taken many paths, and you will find many people here on the forum who are still turning over every stone, providing money and housing and looking for answers. All that is OK, and we may even have some suggestions about more stones to turn. The important thing is that you are not alone.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 697496, member: 17269"] This is a very powerful image. We can probably all insert a mental picture of ourselves here, doing exactly the same thing or something allegorically the same. I'm going to store this in my tool box. A woman dragging her larger-than-her son out of bed, laying out his clothes, talking at the counsellour. A woman representing all of us. Ouch. Me too. I thought for a long time about getting a tattoo on my thumb, right where I would see it every time I sat at a computer, or picked up the phone, or reached for my coffee. I was going to write "he is not deaf." To remind me that the reason he is not taking my superb advice or taking advantage of the many many perfect solutions I have posed, is NOT because he is deaf. It is because he chooses not to do the things I say. I said them once. That is enough. He isn't deaf. Gershbunny, I haven't given up hope for my lovely son. He spiralled for many years, starting about age 14, maybe earlier. So cute, so musically talented, so social..and now this. He is in jail now, after several years of being on the street. He calls me for 5 minutes a day. He is a real student of the news now, the politcal debates, sports, whatever. We have nice chats. We talk about his discharge (he has been discharge three times to monitored facilities because of mental health issues, and each time he has TOTALLY BOMBED OUT and gone straight back to jail..once he was picked up while pissing in an alley in the most dangerous neighborhood in our large city. My son. My lovely boy). I love him. I haven't given up hope. But I will be neither surprised nor crushed if this discharge isn't the charm either. I will keep on keeping on, and so will he, and so will our relationship. We do not judge you at all in making the choices you do. We are here to support you in the difficult task of being mother to a lost son. We have all made many choices, taken many paths, and you will find many people here on the forum who are still turning over every stone, providing money and housing and looking for answers. All that is OK, and we may even have some suggestions about more stones to turn. The important thing is that you are not alone. Echo [/QUOTE]
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