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<blockquote data-quote="katt261" data-source="post: 557920"><p>Well, I've just relayed a lot of your views across to my SO who is away fishing with difficult child. Along the lines of 'I realise now that I have no rights at all to parent your child so it is your sole responsibility, not mine' blah blah blah pretty much everything that MWM quite bluntly put it. </p><p></p><p>I DO NOT consider this child as a 'bad, spoiled kid' at all. I have done more research and attended more CAHMS and Parenting Partnership meetings than SO has (he was too tired to attend), I have even found out symptoms of difficult child's behaviour that SO hadn't even contributed to the dyspraxia. IT WAS ME who first noticed that difficult child had 'problems' 2 years ago when I was reading him a bedtime story (which is something his SO never did), I noticed also that his eyes could not follow the words in a straight line when I was the one sat with him doing his homework (which SO refused to do because he always lost his temper with difficult child and lashed out/swore at him). DO NOT for one moment think that I am not educated or informed about this boy's condition(s). I am more so than SO. As for his diet, it is a known fact that certain foods facilitate and aggravate ADHD and to this end I was merely trying to eliminate the 'triggers'. I am NOT ALLOWED to do the cooking (!) as SO thinks he is a far superior cook (not qualified by the way) and critisizes what meals I have provided for them - even though older sibling and difficult child himself both said my cooking was delicious - go figure. </p><p></p><p>I don't want to break up with SO at all. I am going through a very rough patch and it hadnt been for my suspicions two years ago, this boy would be struggling much more than he would be if I hadn't have asked the authorities and professionals to take a look at him. </p><p></p><p>Earlings Syndrome is a type of dyslexia which causes the brain to malfunction when reading/writing - in particular, black type face/written words on a white background appear blurry and move around - so very difficult for a child with this condition to learn to read/write. I was working as an Optical Advisor two years ago so I recognised the symptoms, and the rest, they say, is history.</p><p></p><p>I am being perceived as the evil step mother and I resent the 'label'. </p><p></p><p>I have done more for this kid than SO and it so happens that my love for SO is very great that I am willing to disappear into the background and let him take all responsibility, in the knowledge that we will never have quality time together as a couple. </p><p></p><p>I am 41 years of age and by no means a stupid woman: I'm an author, an accomplished musician, a bloody good mother and loving partner, who just needs some support with my current situation without being vilified for 'not being the parent and not understanding the full extent of difficult child's conditions'!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katt261, post: 557920"] Well, I've just relayed a lot of your views across to my SO who is away fishing with difficult child. Along the lines of 'I realise now that I have no rights at all to parent your child so it is your sole responsibility, not mine' blah blah blah pretty much everything that MWM quite bluntly put it. I DO NOT consider this child as a 'bad, spoiled kid' at all. I have done more research and attended more CAHMS and Parenting Partnership meetings than SO has (he was too tired to attend), I have even found out symptoms of difficult child's behaviour that SO hadn't even contributed to the dyspraxia. IT WAS ME who first noticed that difficult child had 'problems' 2 years ago when I was reading him a bedtime story (which is something his SO never did), I noticed also that his eyes could not follow the words in a straight line when I was the one sat with him doing his homework (which SO refused to do because he always lost his temper with difficult child and lashed out/swore at him). DO NOT for one moment think that I am not educated or informed about this boy's condition(s). I am more so than SO. As for his diet, it is a known fact that certain foods facilitate and aggravate ADHD and to this end I was merely trying to eliminate the 'triggers'. I am NOT ALLOWED to do the cooking (!) as SO thinks he is a far superior cook (not qualified by the way) and critisizes what meals I have provided for them - even though older sibling and difficult child himself both said my cooking was delicious - go figure. I don't want to break up with SO at all. I am going through a very rough patch and it hadnt been for my suspicions two years ago, this boy would be struggling much more than he would be if I hadn't have asked the authorities and professionals to take a look at him. Earlings Syndrome is a type of dyslexia which causes the brain to malfunction when reading/writing - in particular, black type face/written words on a white background appear blurry and move around - so very difficult for a child with this condition to learn to read/write. I was working as an Optical Advisor two years ago so I recognised the symptoms, and the rest, they say, is history. I am being perceived as the evil step mother and I resent the 'label'. I have done more for this kid than SO and it so happens that my love for SO is very great that I am willing to disappear into the background and let him take all responsibility, in the knowledge that we will never have quality time together as a couple. I am 41 years of age and by no means a stupid woman: I'm an author, an accomplished musician, a bloody good mother and loving partner, who just needs some support with my current situation without being vilified for 'not being the parent and not understanding the full extent of difficult child's conditions'! [/QUOTE]
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