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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 556357" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Just my opinion - all bets are off on holidays. Do what *you* want to do, with no strings attached, no conditions, and no expectations. </p><p></p><p>When thank you was younger, I gave him presents to my heart's content because it wasn't about his behavior or the fact that he wasn't living here - it was that he is my son, I love him, it was the holidays, and I needed to do it, period. Yes, I knew they'd be destroyed in the next rage, and they were, but that wasn't the point.</p><p></p><p>When he was living (wherever), after he hit 18, he was invited here for holidays. He showed for some, not for others. But for those single days, I put all the other junk on mute and just savored his presence. I have no idea what he was doing in those dark days - have my suspicions but... for the holidays, it just didn't matter. They were kind of like free pass days.</p><p></p><p>And the best part was I think he truly did appreciate being with us on holidays (and it wasn't my cooking!! LOL), regardless of all the other junk that he/we dealt with on the other days of the year.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 556357, member: 8"] Just my opinion - all bets are off on holidays. Do what *you* want to do, with no strings attached, no conditions, and no expectations. When thank you was younger, I gave him presents to my heart's content because it wasn't about his behavior or the fact that he wasn't living here - it was that he is my son, I love him, it was the holidays, and I needed to do it, period. Yes, I knew they'd be destroyed in the next rage, and they were, but that wasn't the point. When he was living (wherever), after he hit 18, he was invited here for holidays. He showed for some, not for others. But for those single days, I put all the other junk on mute and just savored his presence. I have no idea what he was doing in those dark days - have my suspicions but... for the holidays, it just didn't matter. They were kind of like free pass days. And the best part was I think he truly did appreciate being with us on holidays (and it wasn't my cooking!! LOL), regardless of all the other junk that he/we dealt with on the other days of the year. [/QUOTE]
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