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<blockquote data-quote="Calamity Jane" data-source="post: 556366" data-attributes="member: 13882"><p>RE,</p><p>I can tell you what has been working for us as it pertains to my brother, who is mentally ill and living nearby in an adult home. For whatever reason, my brother doesn't feel comfortable coming over on the holidays when we have a house full of relatives on my husband's side. They all love him, but I think he just can't take the noise, the activity, whatever. What we do is have my bro over for Thanksgiving, let's say, on Friday. I do all the cooking (AGAIN) and it's just the 6 of us. For Christmas, if we have everyone over on the Eve, my bro will come over on Christmas day. In your situation, your SO and granddaughter may want to have a "private", no drama kind of holiday with you. In that case, you can take your daughter out to dinner, or even have her over the house, but make it the day <u>after</u> Thanksgiving, or the day <u>before</u>, same with Christmas. I don't know if that'll be OK with SO and granddaughter, but after all, she is your daughter, and it's natural to want to have her over for the holiday, no matter what your ultimatum has been thus far. I think Thanksgiving and Christmas are free pass days, too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Calamity Jane, post: 556366, member: 13882"] RE, I can tell you what has been working for us as it pertains to my brother, who is mentally ill and living nearby in an adult home. For whatever reason, my brother doesn't feel comfortable coming over on the holidays when we have a house full of relatives on my husband's side. They all love him, but I think he just can't take the noise, the activity, whatever. What we do is have my bro over for Thanksgiving, let's say, on Friday. I do all the cooking (AGAIN) and it's just the 6 of us. For Christmas, if we have everyone over on the Eve, my bro will come over on Christmas day. In your situation, your SO and granddaughter may want to have a "private", no drama kind of holiday with you. In that case, you can take your daughter out to dinner, or even have her over the house, but make it the day [U]after[/U] Thanksgiving, or the day [U]before[/U], same with Christmas. I don't know if that'll be OK with SO and granddaughter, but after all, she is your daughter, and it's natural to want to have her over for the holiday, no matter what your ultimatum has been thus far. I think Thanksgiving and Christmas are free pass days, too. [/QUOTE]
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