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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 556529" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Well I was the difficult child so I guess I was the one being excluded and it really hurt me bad, I can tell you that. I have tears in my eyes as Im writing this so take what I am saying as a menopausal woman whose daddy has been dead two years now and I miss him like crazy and this stuff really hurts. </p><p></p><p>When my Dad married his second wife her family became their family...I was the difficult child even though she had a bipolar youngest son living at home with them. I was pretty much excluded from everything. Oh my dad would come see me from time to time and if we went up to visit him he would allow us to come in the house, they would feed us a meal, if we wanted to stay over for a night he would get me a motel but we couldnt stay at the house. I think we spent the night at his house maybe 5 times in all the years my kids were growing up and trust me, my kids were on their best behavior when they were there. </p><p></p><p>So her kids got my dad and step-mom for every major holiday (actually every holiday) and if I wanted to be around for a holiday I had to do it the week before or the week after. It was hard to explain to my kids but I did. Kinda luckily I just told them we did the real days with my mom and then we had it again with my dad. Funny because my mom was my abuser. Sigh. No wonder I am so F'ed up. </p><p></p><p>Now with my kids, I dont leave anyone out but Jamie actually does have to make some choices because he is married. He goes to his wifes father's house for Thanksgiving and will come down her sometime around Xmas. Hopefully during Xmas week since his dtr is in school now but he isnt sure about his schedule. We are the home everyone can come to now because Cory is here with 2 kids here with 2 different families. I cant ask those 2 different families to let us just take the kids away up to VA for Xmas every year. Nor would I after the last fiasco. I imagine from now on, we will just go see everyone at Cory's! What a concept. Something I never thought I would see. Cory throws some wonderful family meals. I think he has taken over the torch.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 556529, member: 1514"] Well I was the difficult child so I guess I was the one being excluded and it really hurt me bad, I can tell you that. I have tears in my eyes as Im writing this so take what I am saying as a menopausal woman whose daddy has been dead two years now and I miss him like crazy and this stuff really hurts. When my Dad married his second wife her family became their family...I was the difficult child even though she had a bipolar youngest son living at home with them. I was pretty much excluded from everything. Oh my dad would come see me from time to time and if we went up to visit him he would allow us to come in the house, they would feed us a meal, if we wanted to stay over for a night he would get me a motel but we couldnt stay at the house. I think we spent the night at his house maybe 5 times in all the years my kids were growing up and trust me, my kids were on their best behavior when they were there. So her kids got my dad and step-mom for every major holiday (actually every holiday) and if I wanted to be around for a holiday I had to do it the week before or the week after. It was hard to explain to my kids but I did. Kinda luckily I just told them we did the real days with my mom and then we had it again with my dad. Funny because my mom was my abuser. Sigh. No wonder I am so F'ed up. Now with my kids, I dont leave anyone out but Jamie actually does have to make some choices because he is married. He goes to his wifes father's house for Thanksgiving and will come down her sometime around Xmas. Hopefully during Xmas week since his dtr is in school now but he isnt sure about his schedule. We are the home everyone can come to now because Cory is here with 2 kids here with 2 different families. I cant ask those 2 different families to let us just take the kids away up to VA for Xmas every year. Nor would I after the last fiasco. I imagine from now on, we will just go see everyone at Cory's! What a concept. Something I never thought I would see. Cory throws some wonderful family meals. I think he has taken over the torch. [/QUOTE]
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