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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 318748" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Abbey, </p><p></p><p> Since you put it here I'm going to just be flat and blunt without getting into semantics. This hasn't been about you for a very long time. There are bouts of "Can I include you in <strong><em><u>this process</u></em></strong>?" To bait you along for whatever necessity H needs in his well-thought out life despite what he masks to the world as depression, confusion, or partial moments of clarity so you see the person you love. His actions are NOT random. He is manipulative and does what he wants. Deb be hanged over and over. There won't be any change on his part. Blow your stack, leave - do whatever. He knows you'll come back. Mine did too, until I didn't. Last time I left I didn't come back for 15 years. I got therapy, I got counseling, and now despite a 15 year absence I can honestly tell you the man DOES NOT DESERVE TO SEE ME FROM A MILE AWAY OR EVEN GET TO HEAR A SINGLE BREATH I TAKE. </p><p></p><p>It's not vindictive. I just know that I am worth (and I can fill in the blank). </p><p>At 280 lbs, with my hair falling out, 14 inch ankles, a moustache, acne like a teenager, and size 24 jeans? I WAS WORTH (and I can fill in the blank). </p><p></p><p>No need to burn the couch, or explode (although I know what you mean). Continue to make a plan, keep your goal in sight, what's going to happen will on his part....and what happens on your plan needs to happen too. </p><p></p><p>Deb to self - I KNOW I AM WORTH (and fill in the blank) </p><p></p><p>Hugs & Love - </p><p>I love you. Really. Really. </p><p>Star</p><p></p><p>Not...an advocate of divorce - but enough is enough, and when only ONE person is the continual person seeking the ONLY help and the other refuses to see that they "may" have ANY contributing factors to a relationship going South? There is no need to keep working on it. It's kinda like bailing a row boat with a hole in the bottom. You can keep it afloat for a while but eventually you're going to have to jump out and swim and let the ship sink.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 318748, member: 4964"] Abbey, Since you put it here I'm going to just be flat and blunt without getting into semantics. This hasn't been about you for a very long time. There are bouts of "Can I include you in [B][I][U]this process[/U][/I][/B]?" To bait you along for whatever necessity H needs in his well-thought out life despite what he masks to the world as depression, confusion, or partial moments of clarity so you see the person you love. His actions are NOT random. He is manipulative and does what he wants. Deb be hanged over and over. There won't be any change on his part. Blow your stack, leave - do whatever. He knows you'll come back. Mine did too, until I didn't. Last time I left I didn't come back for 15 years. I got therapy, I got counseling, and now despite a 15 year absence I can honestly tell you the man DOES NOT DESERVE TO SEE ME FROM A MILE AWAY OR EVEN GET TO HEAR A SINGLE BREATH I TAKE. It's not vindictive. I just know that I am worth (and I can fill in the blank). At 280 lbs, with my hair falling out, 14 inch ankles, a moustache, acne like a teenager, and size 24 jeans? I WAS WORTH (and I can fill in the blank). No need to burn the couch, or explode (although I know what you mean). Continue to make a plan, keep your goal in sight, what's going to happen will on his part....and what happens on your plan needs to happen too. Deb to self - I KNOW I AM WORTH (and fill in the blank) Hugs & Love - I love you. Really. Really. Star Not...an advocate of divorce - but enough is enough, and when only ONE person is the continual person seeking the ONLY help and the other refuses to see that they "may" have ANY contributing factors to a relationship going South? There is no need to keep working on it. It's kinda like bailing a row boat with a hole in the bottom. You can keep it afloat for a while but eventually you're going to have to jump out and swim and let the ship sink. [/QUOTE]
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