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<blockquote data-quote="shutterbunny" data-source="post: 32490" data-attributes="member: 3568"><p>Good morning, </p><p></p><p>I'm pretty new here but have already receieved some great help and support from everyone...thank you.</p><p></p><p>My question this morning stems from an ongoing "conversation" my son keeps trying to initiate. We don't want to "lie" to him or be condescending in our answers, but we're wondering if this is "normal curiosity" or if it is something that has the spark of something that could be dangerous or harmful to him.</p><p></p><p>He's 4, he's been a handful (putting it mildly) since birth and is on depakote and recently we've added abilify to the equation. The neuropsychologist diagnosis'd him with unspecified mood disorder but is leaning toward early onset bipolar...for the last month, he's been asking about death and dying. He's told his preschool teachers that "he doesn't want to die" he tells us that several times a week, he asks when, why, how, etc. Then, I made the mistake of commenting about something I saw on the gates of a cemetery. I am an amatuer photographer working at my own start up business, I'd like to make this my full time job...my dream job. Anyway, I saw something very interesting and commented to my husband as we drove by that I wished I'd had my camera because the raptor perched on the gates would have mad for quite a powerful image. That started a new barrage of questions about what is a cemetery, are there skeletons there, who was there, why were they there, etc. Now, this weekend, he has started insisting that he wants to go to the cemetery and when we say no, he says he wants to go and read "ONE stone, just one stone mommy, I promise"...when my husband asked why, he replied, "I want to see who was on this earth before us." What do you say to that? And, is this normal curiosity about a morbid subject, or is this something that I should be talking about immediately to the neuropsychologist?</p><p></p><p>How would you guys answer these things? What would/should be said to a 4 year old about death? He's been hospitalized, he understands people get sick, but we've lost no family members, friends or neighbors in his lifetime. His fish did go belly up a few weeks ago, but this actually preceded the fish thing, and he didn't really seem at all sad about his fish...I'm at a loss.</p><p></p><p>Thanks everyone, I appreciate it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="shutterbunny, post: 32490, member: 3568"] Good morning, I'm pretty new here but have already receieved some great help and support from everyone...thank you. My question this morning stems from an ongoing "conversation" my son keeps trying to initiate. We don't want to "lie" to him or be condescending in our answers, but we're wondering if this is "normal curiosity" or if it is something that has the spark of something that could be dangerous or harmful to him. He's 4, he's been a handful (putting it mildly) since birth and is on depakote and recently we've added abilify to the equation. The neuropsychologist diagnosis'd him with unspecified mood disorder but is leaning toward early onset bipolar...for the last month, he's been asking about death and dying. He's told his preschool teachers that "he doesn't want to die" he tells us that several times a week, he asks when, why, how, etc. Then, I made the mistake of commenting about something I saw on the gates of a cemetery. I am an amatuer photographer working at my own start up business, I'd like to make this my full time job...my dream job. Anyway, I saw something very interesting and commented to my husband as we drove by that I wished I'd had my camera because the raptor perched on the gates would have mad for quite a powerful image. That started a new barrage of questions about what is a cemetery, are there skeletons there, who was there, why were they there, etc. Now, this weekend, he has started insisting that he wants to go to the cemetery and when we say no, he says he wants to go and read "ONE stone, just one stone mommy, I promise"...when my husband asked why, he replied, "I want to see who was on this earth before us." What do you say to that? And, is this normal curiosity about a morbid subject, or is this something that I should be talking about immediately to the neuropsychologist? How would you guys answer these things? What would/should be said to a 4 year old about death? He's been hospitalized, he understands people get sick, but we've lost no family members, friends or neighbors in his lifetime. His fish did go belly up a few weeks ago, but this actually preceded the fish thing, and he didn't really seem at all sad about his fish...I'm at a loss. Thanks everyone, I appreciate it. [/QUOTE]
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