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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 112477" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Susie, I don't think it's unreasonable but that is from a woman's point of view.</p><p>It seems men and women don't think the same. Doesn't mean they can't understand. I do not find it relaxing to have my kitchen a disaster then try to be happy I had dinner made. I appreciate it but I like the whole job done. Same with the boys. Half a job is like not doing it at all. husband is very happy with dinner regardless of the mess the kitchen is in. He doesn't see it or care about it. </p><p></p><p>I think men who work outside their homes think of vacation as a reprieve from the daily grind. Rightly so. The idea that a stay home mom would expect a husband to take over stay home mom duties on <em>his</em>vacation is hard for them to swallow. </p><p></p><p>Now I don't agree with it and I think loving mates have to want to see it from a different angle. He has to understand that you are not well and this is one time in his working life that his vacation time has to be used to help his wife. </p><p></p><p>I have yet to see home taken care if I am sick. They all make efforts and I have to curtail my criticism but it isn't how I would do it. I have to accept it. </p><p></p><p>You are in a situation that is temporary and difficult. He can chose to pay for help or he can help. I just don't see him waiting on you. Call a temp agency. LOL. I know that's expensive but may help for a few days for a few hours could solve the problem. In the meantime do what your doctor told you, delegate specific chores to husband and the children and let it go.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 112477, member: 3"] Susie, I don't think it's unreasonable but that is from a woman's point of view. It seems men and women don't think the same. Doesn't mean they can't understand. I do not find it relaxing to have my kitchen a disaster then try to be happy I had dinner made. I appreciate it but I like the whole job done. Same with the boys. Half a job is like not doing it at all. husband is very happy with dinner regardless of the mess the kitchen is in. He doesn't see it or care about it. I think men who work outside their homes think of vacation as a reprieve from the daily grind. Rightly so. The idea that a stay home mom would expect a husband to take over stay home mom duties on [i]his[/i]vacation is hard for them to swallow. Now I don't agree with it and I think loving mates have to want to see it from a different angle. He has to understand that you are not well and this is one time in his working life that his vacation time has to be used to help his wife. I have yet to see home taken care if I am sick. They all make efforts and I have to curtail my criticism but it isn't how I would do it. I have to accept it. You are in a situation that is temporary and difficult. He can chose to pay for help or he can help. I just don't see him waiting on you. Call a temp agency. LOL. I know that's expensive but may help for a few days for a few hours could solve the problem. In the meantime do what your doctor told you, delegate specific chores to husband and the children and let it go. [/QUOTE]
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