Is your account out of balance?

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by Tanya M, May 25, 2015.

  1. Tanya M

    Tanya M Living with an attitude of gratitude Staff Member

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  2. Scent of Cedar *

    Scent of Cedar * Well-Known Member

    I am still working toward this boundary. I can feel myself wanting to say that automatic "yes". I still feel badly when I do not say yes. Sometimes, I say no because I know that is the right thing from the work we do with and for one another here on the site, but I don't feel it in my heart.

    But I say no anyway. And that seems to have made an amazing difference for my kids. And that feeling of having a choice about things ~ that sort of feeling that I have time to think about it as opposed to that automatic "yes" seems to be percolating into other interactions in my life, too.

    I can see it is true that a person with correct boundaries would know when a relationship is unbalanced. I never even had that concept, before trying to figure out detachment and how to do that.

    So maybe I will incorporate that understanding, as I continue to come into a more balanced way of seeing.

    Thank you, Tanya.

  3. Albatross

    Albatross Well-Known Member

    I am guilty of not only allowing them to make more withdrawals than deposits, but to keep increasing their credit limit!

    Thanks for this, Tanya. A good reminder.
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