exhausted
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It's been two weeks and my daughter is still in DT awaiting a bed at the DBT residential place. I just have to vent!
So when she was in therapeutic home (which really wasn't therapeutic), there was lack of supervision, poor nutrition (no milk or fresh veggies/fruit), and the "mom" ignored her when she told her she was ill. (We ended up taking her to a clinic at 8:00 pm one night when she called us in tears and pain. She had an ear infection, strep and a sinus infection).Of course judge was angry and removed her and put her in JJS custody.
Yesterday, after I called medical and supervisor of DT every day since last Wed. they finially took her to our dentist (can you imagine the cost on this after hours emergency). She was in so much pain she had not slept for 2 nights and one of the workers at DT called to say she had been crying for several hours and to demand the supervisor do something. (thank God for one humane worker) Her tooth got cracked by some aggressive kid when she was at the Observation and Assessment place. They filed it and exposed a nerve. One month later it was so infected they did a root canal. The dentist called me and said he could not get to one of the roots so she needs to go to an endodontist ASAP. They wont let me transport her and they just ignore her when she tells them she is sick. They ignored me for 3 days. What happens to kids who don't have parents who are involved? This is just abuse!
Yep, she is my difficult child but I would not wish that kind of pain on anyone. She knows we love her and take care of her. She told me on Friday visit, as she cried the entire time, "Mom and Dad you would have taken care of this before it got so bad. I have to get my stuff together so I can come home. I can't take it anymore" One silver lining.
I can't help wondering if we did the right thing or if this is just what has to be done in the system to get your kid cared for. Constant demanding, calling supervisors, writing letters....
So when she was in therapeutic home (which really wasn't therapeutic), there was lack of supervision, poor nutrition (no milk or fresh veggies/fruit), and the "mom" ignored her when she told her she was ill. (We ended up taking her to a clinic at 8:00 pm one night when she called us in tears and pain. She had an ear infection, strep and a sinus infection).Of course judge was angry and removed her and put her in JJS custody.
Yesterday, after I called medical and supervisor of DT every day since last Wed. they finially took her to our dentist (can you imagine the cost on this after hours emergency). She was in so much pain she had not slept for 2 nights and one of the workers at DT called to say she had been crying for several hours and to demand the supervisor do something. (thank God for one humane worker) Her tooth got cracked by some aggressive kid when she was at the Observation and Assessment place. They filed it and exposed a nerve. One month later it was so infected they did a root canal. The dentist called me and said he could not get to one of the roots so she needs to go to an endodontist ASAP. They wont let me transport her and they just ignore her when she tells them she is sick. They ignored me for 3 days. What happens to kids who don't have parents who are involved? This is just abuse!
Yep, she is my difficult child but I would not wish that kind of pain on anyone. She knows we love her and take care of her. She told me on Friday visit, as she cried the entire time, "Mom and Dad you would have taken care of this before it got so bad. I have to get my stuff together so I can come home. I can't take it anymore" One silver lining.
I can't help wondering if we did the right thing or if this is just what has to be done in the system to get your kid cared for. Constant demanding, calling supervisors, writing letters....
