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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 436526" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>So sorry you had to deal with this...........again.</p><p></p><p>However, most of this incident seems to stem from a 9 y/o and a 4y/o pushed to play together, and less from any issues J may have (yes, they did seem to escalate it, but there is a 5 year age difference here.) The whole first half of your story sounded perfectly normal to me. While most 4 y/o know what cell phones are, and they know there is something special about them, that's about all they do understand. Your J behaved like any other 4y/o I have known. It was a classic game of "finders keepers" and "Keep away" It was the 9 y/o who should be mature enough to realize that he is dealing with a 4 y/o kid and he should have forgiven J and let the incident go, <em>but noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo that spoiled brat continued in his own upset world, and shut J out, and so J reacted rather intensely to being rejected!</em> Yes, I got kinda childish there, but it sounds about the flavor of your "friend's" email, doesn't it? </p><p></p><p>Honestly, if you haven't responded yet, you might consider giving her a piece of YOUR mind. Yes, J has issues, but it is <strong>NOT ALWAYS HIS FAULT!!!!!!!!!!</strong> And I don't mean that in the way we mean on this board - he has an illness - but in the REAL world, in NORMAL situations just like I viewed it above. Know what I mean?? </p><p></p><p>As a mom of a difficult child you need to learn to separate what parts of your child are his illness, and what are normal reactions. So tough, I know. With time and practice you'll get better at it. I still have a hard time "in the moment", but have learned to give myself a break, and go speak my mind when it is warranted - even if it's a few days later.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 436526, member: 11965"] So sorry you had to deal with this...........again. However, most of this incident seems to stem from a 9 y/o and a 4y/o pushed to play together, and less from any issues J may have (yes, they did seem to escalate it, but there is a 5 year age difference here.) The whole first half of your story sounded perfectly normal to me. While most 4 y/o know what cell phones are, and they know there is something special about them, that's about all they do understand. Your J behaved like any other 4y/o I have known. It was a classic game of "finders keepers" and "Keep away" It was the 9 y/o who should be mature enough to realize that he is dealing with a 4 y/o kid and he should have forgiven J and let the incident go, [I]but noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo that spoiled brat continued in his own upset world, and shut J out, and so J reacted rather intensely to being rejected![/I] Yes, I got kinda childish there, but it sounds about the flavor of your "friend's" email, doesn't it? Honestly, if you haven't responded yet, you might consider giving her a piece of YOUR mind. Yes, J has issues, but it is [B]NOT ALWAYS HIS FAULT!!!!!!!!!![/B] And I don't mean that in the way we mean on this board - he has an illness - but in the REAL world, in NORMAL situations just like I viewed it above. Know what I mean?? As a mom of a difficult child you need to learn to separate what parts of your child are his illness, and what are normal reactions. So tough, I know. With time and practice you'll get better at it. I still have a hard time "in the moment", but have learned to give myself a break, and go speak my mind when it is warranted - even if it's a few days later. [/QUOTE]
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