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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 451806" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>I know how painful this is. The day we kicked difficult child out of the house was the worst day of my life. I had a pit in my stomach and panic in my heart. I couldn't sleep or eat for weeks and it got worse as I read her facebook and watched her go downhill right before my eyes. And yet I knew there was no other choice. If she was ever going to get help it would have to be becvause she lost everything. I knew it could backfire but I also knew she just couldn't stay here anymore. I had to prepare myself for her to never come back, never get help, and to possibly die. It was torture. It ripped my heart out.</p><p></p><p>I can't tell you whether to file charges. You have to go with your gut. But I do think you made the right decision to tell her toleave or get treatment. It is important to stick to that. We always told our difficult child that we would support her if she got help but that we would not help her kill herself by continuing to use.</p><p></p><p>There are treatment centers that will take you if you are indigent. Youare not trsponsible for payig her her treatment. She is an adult. My guess is that no out of state program will take her without direct pay or insurance so she may be left with choices closer to home. Call every place you can find in the phone book or web and start asking questions. Call all the hospitals who have inpatient detox programs. We ended up having to pay out of pocket for two months in a teatment center. It was a great deal of money and she relapsed within two months, but that did lead to a sober house where the rent was only $400 a month and the program is excellent. Hopefully you can find some alternatives for her. But if she doesn't want help no one can force her.</p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to you. I know how horrible this is. The goal is to get her help and it may get worse before it gets better.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 451806, member: 59"] I know how painful this is. The day we kicked difficult child out of the house was the worst day of my life. I had a pit in my stomach and panic in my heart. I couldn't sleep or eat for weeks and it got worse as I read her facebook and watched her go downhill right before my eyes. And yet I knew there was no other choice. If she was ever going to get help it would have to be becvause she lost everything. I knew it could backfire but I also knew she just couldn't stay here anymore. I had to prepare myself for her to never come back, never get help, and to possibly die. It was torture. It ripped my heart out. I can't tell you whether to file charges. You have to go with your gut. But I do think you made the right decision to tell her toleave or get treatment. It is important to stick to that. We always told our difficult child that we would support her if she got help but that we would not help her kill herself by continuing to use. There are treatment centers that will take you if you are indigent. Youare not trsponsible for payig her her treatment. She is an adult. My guess is that no out of state program will take her without direct pay or insurance so she may be left with choices closer to home. Call every place you can find in the phone book or web and start asking questions. Call all the hospitals who have inpatient detox programs. We ended up having to pay out of pocket for two months in a teatment center. It was a great deal of money and she relapsed within two months, but that did lead to a sober house where the rent was only $400 a month and the program is excellent. Hopefully you can find some alternatives for her. But if she doesn't want help no one can force her. My heart goes out to you. I know how horrible this is. The goal is to get her help and it may get worse before it gets better. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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