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<blockquote data-quote="orcaauntie" data-source="post: 460583" data-attributes="member: 12721"><p>Niece has been getting worse. Mom isn't fighting back with her anymore- but she still has a horrible attitude. Well, we've discovered that two weeks ago, she lost her virginity, at 12, to a boy she was dating for 2 days.. then he dumped her 2 days later. The friend was in another room, with a different boy, having sex with him. This is either shortly after, or shortly before, her horrible behavior against my mom began. Our proof shows us that my Niece says she "wasn't thinking" and other indications showing that she knows it was wrong and that her friend (that I've mentioned is definitely contributing to this mess) "made her do it". And we have messages proving that her friend IS indeed trying to push her to having sex with boys. The items in quotes are things my Niece said in messages.</p><p>This same friend was using my parent's home phone to prank call boys and was talking to them about their anatomy and sex- Mom has the conversations recorded. My niece has said in messages to other people that this friend is "like, trying to sell my body" and is "like, pimping me out". This is not in her character, and this friend is changing her character.. obviously my niece is not strong enough to tell her that she doesn't want to do that stuff. </p><p></p><p>Friend's parents are useless. They are oblivious to their daughter's behavior. They have another daughter that is 15 or 16 and is even worse than this one. They hate my Mom because she is contstantly having to call niece's friend's parents to see if she is there or what-not because she wants to know where she is. They don't answer the phone. So, mom, after calling 25 times, sent the police up their house. Well, friend's mom chewed out my mom in front of the cops, swearing up and down. Friend's Mom said that niece and said friend can't hang out anymore because she doesn't want to deal with my Mom's "BS". Oh and apparently she will have my MOM arrested if my niece hangs out with her daughter. Um ok, that is not even possible. And Hello- her daughter is the problem, not my niece. </p><p></p><p>Yesterday niece didn't come home after school for her docs appointments. This one was an emergency visit with her counselor because she said she never gets to talk to her since the visits usually her her siblings- even though the counselor gives them an opportunity to state whether they want to talk alone or not. Mom found her finally and niece was about to get into the car, the door was open, then her friend told her "tell her you're walking home!" so my niece did just that, and turned around, walked away. She didn't come home until just after 10pm (on a school night). My mom sent her to her room without dinner because she wasn't home for the meal when she is supposed to be. Well, today after school she ran off and my Mom currently has no idea where she is. </p><p></p><p>Do you have any suggestions? Mom is trying to not fight with her, give her some freedom (reasonable) and she is just getting worse. Her friend is apparently a ring leader and my Niece is following her every word. Some of you have said before that keeping her away from this friend is a futile effort. But, letting her be around her is going to basically, ruin my niece's life. We've been through it once with my niece's Mom and I think we're going to go through it again. Niece's Mom was in juvenile detention centers, had chins petitions, was pregnant at 15 and addicted to drugs shortly into her 20s. I am so sick to my stomach.</p><p></p><p>Mom has an appointment with a behavioral psychologist and I guess they are going to work on getting her a new evaluation. Hopefully she can get one. </p><p>Oh, and I got a nice phone call from my sister (Niece's Mom) yesterday questioning me about the plan to have niece move in with me. I told her there IS no plan. I haven't spoken to my sister in well over a year, and we do not communicate otherwise. She heard this from niece because Mom has at one point in response to my Niece saying she didn't want to live with her anymore, mentioned it to her as being the only other place she has to go if she doesn't want to live with my Mom. So she goes and tells her Mom that my Mom is going to send her to live with me. Really great when they are involved in the court system, eh? </p><p></p><p>Sorry if some of this sounds harsh, but I am so angry right now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="orcaauntie, post: 460583, member: 12721"] Niece has been getting worse. Mom isn't fighting back with her anymore- but she still has a horrible attitude. Well, we've discovered that two weeks ago, she lost her virginity, at 12, to a boy she was dating for 2 days.. then he dumped her 2 days later. The friend was in another room, with a different boy, having sex with him. This is either shortly after, or shortly before, her horrible behavior against my mom began. Our proof shows us that my Niece says she "wasn't thinking" and other indications showing that she knows it was wrong and that her friend (that I've mentioned is definitely contributing to this mess) "made her do it". And we have messages proving that her friend IS indeed trying to push her to having sex with boys. The items in quotes are things my Niece said in messages. This same friend was using my parent's home phone to prank call boys and was talking to them about their anatomy and sex- Mom has the conversations recorded. My niece has said in messages to other people that this friend is "like, trying to sell my body" and is "like, pimping me out". This is not in her character, and this friend is changing her character.. obviously my niece is not strong enough to tell her that she doesn't want to do that stuff. Friend's parents are useless. They are oblivious to their daughter's behavior. They have another daughter that is 15 or 16 and is even worse than this one. They hate my Mom because she is contstantly having to call niece's friend's parents to see if she is there or what-not because she wants to know where she is. They don't answer the phone. So, mom, after calling 25 times, sent the police up their house. Well, friend's mom chewed out my mom in front of the cops, swearing up and down. Friend's Mom said that niece and said friend can't hang out anymore because she doesn't want to deal with my Mom's "BS". Oh and apparently she will have my MOM arrested if my niece hangs out with her daughter. Um ok, that is not even possible. And Hello- her daughter is the problem, not my niece. Yesterday niece didn't come home after school for her docs appointments. This one was an emergency visit with her counselor because she said she never gets to talk to her since the visits usually her her siblings- even though the counselor gives them an opportunity to state whether they want to talk alone or not. Mom found her finally and niece was about to get into the car, the door was open, then her friend told her "tell her you're walking home!" so my niece did just that, and turned around, walked away. She didn't come home until just after 10pm (on a school night). My mom sent her to her room without dinner because she wasn't home for the meal when she is supposed to be. Well, today after school she ran off and my Mom currently has no idea where she is. Do you have any suggestions? Mom is trying to not fight with her, give her some freedom (reasonable) and she is just getting worse. Her friend is apparently a ring leader and my Niece is following her every word. Some of you have said before that keeping her away from this friend is a futile effort. But, letting her be around her is going to basically, ruin my niece's life. We've been through it once with my niece's Mom and I think we're going to go through it again. Niece's Mom was in juvenile detention centers, had chins petitions, was pregnant at 15 and addicted to drugs shortly into her 20s. I am so sick to my stomach. Mom has an appointment with a behavioral psychologist and I guess they are going to work on getting her a new evaluation. Hopefully she can get one. Oh, and I got a nice phone call from my sister (Niece's Mom) yesterday questioning me about the plan to have niece move in with me. I told her there IS no plan. I haven't spoken to my sister in well over a year, and we do not communicate otherwise. She heard this from niece because Mom has at one point in response to my Niece saying she didn't want to live with her anymore, mentioned it to her as being the only other place she has to go if she doesn't want to live with my Mom. So she goes and tells her Mom that my Mom is going to send her to live with me. Really great when they are involved in the court system, eh? Sorry if some of this sounds harsh, but I am so angry right now. [/QUOTE]
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