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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 368234" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Hello Lost--</p><p> </p><p>I realize that you have written your post from the point of view of the "Step-Father" and are viewing the situation as a "when will she accept me?" type of thing....</p><p> </p><p>BUT--depending upon what kind of difficult child your SD is...it may NOT be a "Step-Father" issue at all.</p><p> </p><p>My 15 year old daughter treats me as though she absolutely despises me...her real Mom. When asked, she can give no logical explanation as to why she has such venomous feelings towards me. All the things I would love to share with her, do with her, do FOR her are all rejected. She acts as though I surely have some hideous ulterior motive.</p><p> </p><p>It is VERY hurtful.</p><p> </p><p>I often have fantasies about running away--getting a divorce and leaving difficult child with her Dad (yeah, he'd LOVE that--NOT!!!), but like you, I haven't seriously comtemplated leaving. For now, it's just a fantasy to get me through those hurtful days.</p><p> </p><p>On the bright side (yes, believe it or not)...hiding in her bedroom seems a lot better than out-and-out confrontation. At least she is staying out of your space! </p><p> </p><p>And if you can distance yourself emotionally just a bit--you might find it amusing to picture her in her bedroom, crossing her legs "doing the bathroom dance", and thinking please, please PLEASE let him step outside before I wet myself!!!</p><p> </p><p>Hang in there!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 368234, member: 6546"] Hello Lost-- I realize that you have written your post from the point of view of the "Step-Father" and are viewing the situation as a "when will she accept me?" type of thing.... BUT--depending upon what kind of difficult child your SD is...it may NOT be a "Step-Father" issue at all. My 15 year old daughter treats me as though she absolutely despises me...her real Mom. When asked, she can give no logical explanation as to why she has such venomous feelings towards me. All the things I would love to share with her, do with her, do FOR her are all rejected. She acts as though I surely have some hideous ulterior motive. It is VERY hurtful. I often have fantasies about running away--getting a divorce and leaving difficult child with her Dad (yeah, he'd LOVE that--NOT!!!), but like you, I haven't seriously comtemplated leaving. For now, it's just a fantasy to get me through those hurtful days. On the bright side (yes, believe it or not)...hiding in her bedroom seems a lot better than out-and-out confrontation. At least she is staying out of your space! And if you can distance yourself emotionally just a bit--you might find it amusing to picture her in her bedroom, crossing her legs "doing the bathroom dance", and thinking please, please PLEASE let him step outside before I wet myself!!! Hang in there! [/QUOTE]
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