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<blockquote data-quote="KTMom91" data-source="post: 368267" data-attributes="member: 4040"><p>We still have some of this going on after ten years. Miss KT is rude, hostile, dismissive...and it HAS gotten better, but not to the point that Hubby or I want it to be. I agree that it's about control, and it also seems to be a contest about who I love more. If I'm upset with Hubby, than Miss KT wins. And she keeps score. Everything is a competition with her; if dinner is her favorite or his, what I buy at the grocery store, which one I ask to help me..."I don't want to get the laundry, make Dad do it!" She seems herself and my Hubby on the same level, the same social standing, not getting that she's the child.</p><p></p><p>As much as it hurts you, and I know it does, your wife is feeling pulled apart. Your SD wants her on her side, you expect that she be on yours, and she probably just wants it all to stop. The harder you pull at her, the harder she'll resist. While I didn't want to be in the position of taking sides, and I hate being placed in the middle, there were times when I took the side of whoever would shut up first, just to get some peace. Not good, I know. Now I ignore them both, tell them both to knock it off...and Hubby says I treat him like a child. Your wife is in a position where nothing she does is right, as long as there's open warfare in the home. If you are able to not take your SD's attitude personally, it will help.</p><p></p><p>Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KTMom91, post: 368267, member: 4040"] We still have some of this going on after ten years. Miss KT is rude, hostile, dismissive...and it HAS gotten better, but not to the point that Hubby or I want it to be. I agree that it's about control, and it also seems to be a contest about who I love more. If I'm upset with Hubby, than Miss KT wins. And she keeps score. Everything is a competition with her; if dinner is her favorite or his, what I buy at the grocery store, which one I ask to help me..."I don't want to get the laundry, make Dad do it!" She seems herself and my Hubby on the same level, the same social standing, not getting that she's the child. As much as it hurts you, and I know it does, your wife is feeling pulled apart. Your SD wants her on her side, you expect that she be on yours, and she probably just wants it all to stop. The harder you pull at her, the harder she'll resist. While I didn't want to be in the position of taking sides, and I hate being placed in the middle, there were times when I took the side of whoever would shut up first, just to get some peace. Not good, I know. Now I ignore them both, tell them both to knock it off...and Hubby says I treat him like a child. Your wife is in a position where nothing she does is right, as long as there's open warfare in the home. If you are able to not take your SD's attitude personally, it will help. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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