Hello all. I haven't posted in quite some time. Things are worse with my stepson who is now 14. His mental illness diagnoses are the same but now he is up to 260 pounds and he is refusing to take his medications. Truancy has become even worse this year and the school has warned biomom that action will be taken if she doesn't make him come to school. So now biomom just tells the school SS is ill and keeps taking him to different urgent cares to get doctors. notes so the absences can be excused. How these doctors. can give BM notes that say SS is ill is beyond me when he is not ill. And the school is already getting wise to it. BM still refuses to file the unruly child paperwork on SS when she has been advised to do so repeatedly by SS psychiatrist. SS does not always come for his visits to our home every other weekend now. He refuses to come sometimes which is fine with me. His hygiene has gotten even worse, he smells so bad that the room he sleeps in when he visits smells bad while he is here. He still gets urine and feces all over the toilet and refuses to clean it. I am stressed out whenever he is here and now I'm even more stressed because husband has mentioned a couple of times recently that maybe we should have SS come live with us to try and straighten him out, which is not possible. He's beyond what a parent can do. The thought of that scares me. I don't want him to live with us. I can't even stand his visits. I will be 60 years old in May. I do not want to raise this violent, mentally ill child. I have health issues already and can't take the added stress. How can I explain this to my husband without hurting him? I fear his reaction if I tell him I don't want SS to live with us. I am at my wits end about this. I don't want to lose my husband over this. His son needs residential treatment. BM has been told this repeatedly. Please help me. I need advice desperately.