Hi- have not been on this board in a LONG time. difficult child is now 11 going into 5th grade. He has been on foccalin and doing well in school. He was "declassified" this year and is moving on to a 504. However, he is not an easy child to raise. I have been slowly taking him off medications this summer -- he was up to 30 mg of foccalin a day when school ended--now he is on 10 mg. I am just upset today-because we had close friends watch him yesterday-overnight-. Our friends have 5 kids ranging from 2-9 years old (no difficult child's). He went there and did ok I guess- but text messaged the 9 year old girl f- u. He wasn't angry- don't have any clue why he did it. We are punishing him for it--I am just so upset and embarrassed. I don't know-it just ALWAYS seems like there is an issue with him. Nothing is easy. I know I am sounding jealous here-but I see my friends with their 5 kids- no issues- kids rolling along, happy, friendly, nice-- and here I am with one ALWAYS having to guide him out of trouble. I know- it is a pity party! I'm just tired. I don't know if I am over-reacting to the language thing--if it is just normal 11 year old behavior to experiment with language-- but I am so disappointed in him-because I spoke with him before going there-to be on his best behavior to show that he is mature and to be appropriate. I just worry so much about him. I want him to make the right decisions-but it always seems like he makes poor ones.