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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 598392" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>Gran,</p><p>Do not feel ashamed of your feelings toward your difficult child. It is a form of detachment, in my opinion without it we would go insane! I am also at the same point with my soon to be 35yo difficult child. Regardless of mental illness, drug use, alcohol abuse, I just can't take it any more.</p><p></p><p>Mine has been difficult from birth and each year I thought, we are closer to a more responsible, independent person, it never happens. in my opinion the last 2 years have been worse than before.</p><p></p><p>He is in a relationship with another full blown difficult child and I had to call the police to stop her harassment. She came after him with a knife, he called police, she is sent to detox, he Baker Acts himself. I spend all of this money, ONCE AGAIN, trying to help him start over, his 2 only easy child friends (sisters) tried to help him also. He's back with girlie. He has cut off all contact with friends and family.</p><p></p><p>After I refused to send any more money he threatened suicide and said he would steal and go to prison if I did not help. That finally made me realize this will go on for the rest of our lives if I let it.</p><p></p><p>He is a cutter so he very well may commit suicide one day. Detachment and turning over to my HP are a huge help.</p><p></p><p>He went NC with me in November, as sad as it is, most days are so much more stress free. It is a parents worse nightmare to have these children. I pray for him daily, I may never hear from my only son again, he is an adult and he has to take responsibility for himself. We deserve a life too, and I wish you peace not guilt.</p><p>(((hugs and prayers for us all)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 598392, member: 13558"] Gran, Do not feel ashamed of your feelings toward your difficult child. It is a form of detachment, in my opinion without it we would go insane! I am also at the same point with my soon to be 35yo difficult child. Regardless of mental illness, drug use, alcohol abuse, I just can't take it any more. Mine has been difficult from birth and each year I thought, we are closer to a more responsible, independent person, it never happens. in my opinion the last 2 years have been worse than before. He is in a relationship with another full blown difficult child and I had to call the police to stop her harassment. She came after him with a knife, he called police, she is sent to detox, he Baker Acts himself. I spend all of this money, ONCE AGAIN, trying to help him start over, his 2 only easy child friends (sisters) tried to help him also. He's back with girlie. He has cut off all contact with friends and family. After I refused to send any more money he threatened suicide and said he would steal and go to prison if I did not help. That finally made me realize this will go on for the rest of our lives if I let it. He is a cutter so he very well may commit suicide one day. Detachment and turning over to my HP are a huge help. He went NC with me in November, as sad as it is, most days are so much more stress free. It is a parents worse nightmare to have these children. I pray for him daily, I may never hear from my only son again, he is an adult and he has to take responsibility for himself. We deserve a life too, and I wish you peace not guilt. (((hugs and prayers for us all))) [/QUOTE]
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