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<blockquote data-quote="TheyAreLegallyAdultsNow" data-source="post: 543933" data-attributes="member: 8405"><p>I'm sorry for the heartache and heartbreak you must certainly be experiencing L T! </p><p></p><p>I think this kind of junk is more common than anyone would ever guess in adoption. </p><p></p><p>Our "special needs sibling group" of three had been bouncing around in the system for YEARS before the state pursued involuntary Termination of Parental Rights. Silly-naive me was surprised our future kids weren't parentless... As in their bio-parents weren't dead. Our social worker explained that for as long as there has been a child welfare program.... Our future adoptees' bio-family has been churning out kids, letting the government raise them, only for them to return to bio-family to perpetuate the cycle. The government got the bright idea to TPR and let these kids be adopted by decent families to "break the cycle". (I wish I had asked for their track record with that philosophy!!!! ) </p><p></p><p>I now question the ethics of "adopting out" children with living biological parents. Don't get me wrong... I don't think adoptive parents have behaved unethically to have given love and time, nurturing and a home to children who were abused by their birth family, but perhaps "long term foster" would have been a much less painful route for all. </p><p></p><p>They promised us, and told us to promise our kids "a forever family.". </p><p></p><p>Was that ever REALLY possible?</p><p></p><p>Please understand it is with much empathy I'm praying for you and the adult children you have poured so much of your life into!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheyAreLegallyAdultsNow, post: 543933, member: 8405"] I'm sorry for the heartache and heartbreak you must certainly be experiencing L T! I think this kind of junk is more common than anyone would ever guess in adoption. Our "special needs sibling group" of three had been bouncing around in the system for YEARS before the state pursued involuntary Termination of Parental Rights. Silly-naive me was surprised our future kids weren't parentless... As in their bio-parents weren't dead. Our social worker explained that for as long as there has been a child welfare program.... Our future adoptees' bio-family has been churning out kids, letting the government raise them, only for them to return to bio-family to perpetuate the cycle. The government got the bright idea to TPR and let these kids be adopted by decent families to "break the cycle". (I wish I had asked for their track record with that philosophy!!!! ) I now question the ethics of "adopting out" children with living biological parents. Don't get me wrong... I don't think adoptive parents have behaved unethically to have given love and time, nurturing and a home to children who were abused by their birth family, but perhaps "long term foster" would have been a much less painful route for all. They promised us, and told us to promise our kids "a forever family.". Was that ever REALLY possible? Please understand it is with much empathy I'm praying for you and the adult children you have poured so much of your life into! [/QUOTE]
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