Hello again, are y'all getting tired of me yet? I guess I'm just thrilled to find this board because for so many years I thought I was the only one with a 'difficult' child. Whenever I would do an Internet search for troubled kids I would come up with forums with people asking if their 13 yr old should be allowed to wear a thong or whatnot. Guess I wasn't using the right search words? Anyway... husband ended up taking difficult child to work with him today because father in law has not come home yet. That was a relief to me, didn't have to worry about him. We have a large bonus room upstairs & that is where Adam's room is, when he failed this last drug test we decided that we were going to move him downstairs so that he wouldn't have so much privacy. Want him to know he's being watched. husband & I have been working so much we have not had a chance to get to it yet so Kayla took it upon herself to clean it out today since she will be moving up there. Let me tell ya, that boy is DISGUSTING!!! The carpet is completely ruined, stuff on it I cannot even identify. I've never seen so many holes in walls in my life, little tiny pinholes & bigger who knows what holes. Adam has always been such a destructive kid, the only room in this house that he has not damaged something major in it is mine & husband's bed/bathroom. Does anybody else's difficult child seem to take delite in destroying property? Ok, so here's my question. I told y'all in my post from yesterday about Adam starting group counseling classes & me having a call into a psycologist. I got the call from the psycologist today & made an appointment but after talking to husband I am confused. He's a little weary of Adam going to both for 2 reasons. One being the money, insurance pays for the psycologist after a $40 co-pay but the counseling center charges based upon your income & we have to pay 100% since we do not qualify, that's $64. Both of these would be weekly. The other reason being that husband thinks that it would possibly be overwhelming to Adam, that he would get mad about going to both & not listen to either just to spite us. I just don't know. Paying that much money every week would be a strain on us on top of the parole fees but if we cut out some stuff maybe it would be doable. I certainly don't want to make Adam so angry that he resists any help we are trying to give him. Gaaaahhhh! I'm so confused! So what would you do? Group counseling or psycologist or both? If you could only do one which one would you pick? Thanks once again for all of y'alls advice. Please don't vote me off the island for so many questions.