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It's Not Always the difficult children....
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 411962" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Perhaps you could approach it with reverse psychology. "easy child I know that you love me but I wonder what you would do or say if you found that I was not providing a healthy environment for your children. Would you ignore the problem or would you make yourself face the uncomfortable facts and point out that I was hurting the kids?</p><p> </p><p>Chances are that she would immediately think "omg, Mom is hurting my kids?" I'm sure the thought would shock and dismay her. </p><p> </p><p>That might allow you to transition into your real concerns. </p><p>As much as you love the her and the kids you are tired. Even though she is a wonderful caring person you don't think she realizes that her children need her rested loving parenting during these most formative years. The kids are not having the chance to form that loving bond with their Mom because she has too few rested hours. Already you can see one grandchild showing signs of low self esteem because of her shortness with him. You admire her deligence in trying to get a better house etc....but...memories are formed inside a home filled with love and security not more square footage and larger lawns.</p><p> </p><p>Then...if she's listening and absorbing, ask her to make a list of temporary life changes she could make so she can enjoy the early years of parenting. Who knows if might make her rethink her priorities. Remember I have not had a life due to my dedication to grandchildren. It honestly is very sad to realize that I can not recapture those years. I'd hate for you to follow suit.Hugs DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 411962, member: 35"] Perhaps you could approach it with reverse psychology. "easy child I know that you love me but I wonder what you would do or say if you found that I was not providing a healthy environment for your children. Would you ignore the problem or would you make yourself face the uncomfortable facts and point out that I was hurting the kids? Chances are that she would immediately think "omg, Mom is hurting my kids?" I'm sure the thought would shock and dismay her. That might allow you to transition into your real concerns. As much as you love the her and the kids you are tired. Even though she is a wonderful caring person you don't think she realizes that her children need her rested loving parenting during these most formative years. The kids are not having the chance to form that loving bond with their Mom because she has too few rested hours. Already you can see one grandchild showing signs of low self esteem because of her shortness with him. You admire her deligence in trying to get a better house etc....but...memories are formed inside a home filled with love and security not more square footage and larger lawns. Then...if she's listening and absorbing, ask her to make a list of temporary life changes she could make so she can enjoy the early years of parenting. Who knows if might make her rethink her priorities. Remember I have not had a life due to my dedication to grandchildren. It honestly is very sad to realize that I can not recapture those years. I'd hate for you to follow suit.Hugs DDD [/QUOTE]
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