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"It's Not Fair!!!"
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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 177093" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Okay, I'm one of those who thinks fairness is truly important. Did when I was little, do today. I don't say "it's not fair" anymore but I think it. I got the life isn't fair response more times than I cared to count. It didn't matter. If it wasn't fair, it just wasn't. Like your son, I'd stick up for anyone if I saw they weren't getting a fair shake. It almost got me thrown in jail when I was volunteering at a local prison and I felt one of the inmates wasn't being treated fairly.</p><p> </p><p>All of that being said, when my daughter would say something wasn't fair, sometimes I'd agree with her that it wasn't but it was just the way things were. Other times, I would simply tell her that I was sorry she felt it wasn't fair but it really was. Fair to her didn't necessarily mean fair to the rest of the world. No matter what, I really wouldn't argue the fairness with her. She would get one of the two comments and that would be it. No more discussion (at least at that time). </p><p> </p><p>It's true that life isn't fair and that truly stinks for those of us who think fairness is crucial. It makes life a little harder than it should be. It's taken me 50 years to figure that out but I did finally get it. Good luck on this one!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 177093, member: 3626"] Okay, I'm one of those who thinks fairness is truly important. Did when I was little, do today. I don't say "it's not fair" anymore but I think it. I got the life isn't fair response more times than I cared to count. It didn't matter. If it wasn't fair, it just wasn't. Like your son, I'd stick up for anyone if I saw they weren't getting a fair shake. It almost got me thrown in jail when I was volunteering at a local prison and I felt one of the inmates wasn't being treated fairly. All of that being said, when my daughter would say something wasn't fair, sometimes I'd agree with her that it wasn't but it was just the way things were. Other times, I would simply tell her that I was sorry she felt it wasn't fair but it really was. Fair to her didn't necessarily mean fair to the rest of the world. No matter what, I really wouldn't argue the fairness with her. She would get one of the two comments and that would be it. No more discussion (at least at that time). It's true that life isn't fair and that truly stinks for those of us who think fairness is crucial. It makes life a little harder than it should be. It's taken me 50 years to figure that out but I did finally get it. Good luck on this one! [/QUOTE]
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