toughlovin
Well-Known Member
Ugh. I had a FB conversation with difficult child last night that made it hard for me to sleep. He sent me a message he was coming home on the 31st. I asked home where and how? He said the state we live in and he was coming by plane! His plan is to try and convince his ex-girlfriend (who was just out visiting him and was the reason he was kicked out of the sober house) to leave the state with him! Not sure how he got the money for the plane ticket.... apparently by being homeless. Panhandling? Stealing?
I stayed as netural as I could in the conversation. He siad this is his last chance..... otherwise he is giving up. He also said he should have just done the prison time rather than getting stuck in "recovery"!! He thinks that writing the letter to the judge screwed him. That makes no sense to me at all!!!
I told him if he comes back he might have a chance to do his prison time..... which is very true and very likely because I cant imagine if he comes back with the ex-girlfriend that he wont end up in trouble... and all the police around here know him and there are several warrants out for his arrest already!! I also asked hhim how he would support himself out of state with her. He didnt answer me after that.
I guess he is just hoping she will somehow take care of him and save him.
I have been thinking about him lately and what is wrong with him. I do think growing up he had empathy for those who were hurting...but for some reason i dont think he ever developed his own internal moral compass. So he might not do something out of fear for external bad consequences, but he does not seem to have that internal voice that tells him something is wrong and so dont do it. I am not sure he feels guilt until he gets in trouble and then he feels bad because he is in trouble.
Sigh...well if he is going to end up in prison I would rather it be close to home.
Time to find a way to go on with my day.
*TL
I stayed as netural as I could in the conversation. He siad this is his last chance..... otherwise he is giving up. He also said he should have just done the prison time rather than getting stuck in "recovery"!! He thinks that writing the letter to the judge screwed him. That makes no sense to me at all!!!
I told him if he comes back he might have a chance to do his prison time..... which is very true and very likely because I cant imagine if he comes back with the ex-girlfriend that he wont end up in trouble... and all the police around here know him and there are several warrants out for his arrest already!! I also asked hhim how he would support himself out of state with her. He didnt answer me after that.
I guess he is just hoping she will somehow take care of him and save him.
I have been thinking about him lately and what is wrong with him. I do think growing up he had empathy for those who were hurting...but for some reason i dont think he ever developed his own internal moral compass. So he might not do something out of fear for external bad consequences, but he does not seem to have that internal voice that tells him something is wrong and so dont do it. I am not sure he feels guilt until he gets in trouble and then he feels bad because he is in trouble.
Sigh...well if he is going to end up in prison I would rather it be close to home.
Time to find a way to go on with my day.
*TL