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<blockquote data-quote="doll" data-source="post: 464632" data-attributes="member: 12801"><p><span style="font-family: 'fixedsys'">MidwestMom: My mom is has always been manipulative. Ever since I was young, I have had to deal with her reasons why I cannot do the most basic and simple things. For example, learning to drive. Obviously, like most teenagers, I had wanted to learn to drive at 16-17. My mom decided that I was too young to learn how to drive. I could understand that for some teens, however, I was a teen with a baby. I was trying to learn some responsibility. She told me I had to wait a year until I turned 18, so I did. Then she told me, it wasn't that she didn't want me to drive, she didn't think I could. She thought I would be a terrible driver because of my anxiety and she was so worried for me and my son that she wouldn't teach me. At this point, I was so isolated, I was with my son 24/7 and had no one else to take me to learn how to drive. Finally a family member spoke up and told my mom it was time she took me to learn how to drive. My mom took me out to an empty lot and every time I would put the car in gear and go forward, she'd start screaming that I was doing it wrong and how I was about to hit the pole .. clear on the other end of the lot. If my anxiety wasn't bad before, it was bad now. I am 24 years old and now have anxiety about driving that is so bad. I wanted to drive before, now all I can hear is the echo of how I can't do it and if I do, I will hurt both my son and myself. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'fixedsys'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'fixedsys'">Everything I do, if it's no the way she'd do it, it's wrong. I have anxiety about doing the simplest things because I've been yelled at for whatever I do. In regards to my son, if I dress my son for the day in jeans and a shirt, she'll go in and change it to something else (he'll walk out in different jeans and a different shirt and no these clothes I am putting on him aren't offensive or inappropriate, just not what she wants that day). If I tell my son I am going to fix him waffles for breakfast, she'll say, "You don't want those, do you? Nah. Let's have oatmeal today." It's always her way which is why I chose to leave her out of his counseling appointments even if it makes her angry. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'fixedsys'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'fixedsys'">Even moving out is a problem. I once told her the day I move out I will let her know after I do because I am so scared she's going to try to stop me and she told me that if I move out without her knowing about it, she'll call the police and try to get "grandparent rights", even though my SO and I have said once he gets here and we get our own place, he wants to try to remove her from the situation because she's just making it worse. When I told her I need space once I move out for awhile she called me an "evil hateful girl", which my son now repeats. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'fixedsys'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'fixedsys'">In regards to CPS coming out, she didn't give them our address or names. She used a cell phone so it's untraceable. This was more of a tactic to get me to do what she wanted than than anything. She doesn't want us to leave or to have them involved and she knows neither do I, so she's been using this (this isn't the first time) as a tactic to scare me from time to time. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'fixedsys'"></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="doll, post: 464632, member: 12801"] [FONT=fixedsys][/FONT][FONT=fixedsys]MidwestMom: My mom is has always been manipulative. Ever since I was young, I have had to deal with her reasons why I cannot do the most basic and simple things. For example, learning to drive. Obviously, like most teenagers, I had wanted to learn to drive at 16-17. My mom decided that I was too young to learn how to drive. I could understand that for some teens, however, I was a teen with a baby. I was trying to learn some responsibility. She told me I had to wait a year until I turned 18, so I did. Then she told me, it wasn't that she didn't want me to drive, she didn't think I could. She thought I would be a terrible driver because of my anxiety and she was so worried for me and my son that she wouldn't teach me. At this point, I was so isolated, I was with my son 24/7 and had no one else to take me to learn how to drive. Finally a family member spoke up and told my mom it was time she took me to learn how to drive. My mom took me out to an empty lot and every time I would put the car in gear and go forward, she'd start screaming that I was doing it wrong and how I was about to hit the pole .. clear on the other end of the lot. If my anxiety wasn't bad before, it was bad now. I am 24 years old and now have anxiety about driving that is so bad. I wanted to drive before, now all I can hear is the echo of how I can't do it and if I do, I will hurt both my son and myself. Everything I do, if it's no the way she'd do it, it's wrong. I have anxiety about doing the simplest things because I've been yelled at for whatever I do. In regards to my son, if I dress my son for the day in jeans and a shirt, she'll go in and change it to something else (he'll walk out in different jeans and a different shirt and no these clothes I am putting on him aren't offensive or inappropriate, just not what she wants that day). If I tell my son I am going to fix him waffles for breakfast, she'll say, "You don't want those, do you? Nah. Let's have oatmeal today." It's always her way which is why I chose to leave her out of his counseling appointments even if it makes her angry. Even moving out is a problem. I once told her the day I move out I will let her know after I do because I am so scared she's going to try to stop me and she told me that if I move out without her knowing about it, she'll call the police and try to get "grandparent rights", even though my SO and I have said once he gets here and we get our own place, he wants to try to remove her from the situation because she's just making it worse. When I told her I need space once I move out for awhile she called me an "evil hateful girl", which my son now repeats. In regards to CPS coming out, she didn't give them our address or names. She used a cell phone so it's untraceable. This was more of a tactic to get me to do what she wanted than than anything. She doesn't want us to leave or to have them involved and she knows neither do I, so she's been using this (this isn't the first time) as a tactic to scare me from time to time. [/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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