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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 464684" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>It is <strong>very </strong>difficult to share a home with your parent and still feel independent. on the other hand, have you taken any steps to become independent other than trying to coparent with your Mom? I assume since you had your son at 17 that perhaps you have been with her for that time and therefore the boundaries have become blurred. That would be the natural consequence of sharing her home. I'm also assuming that perhaps you had to drop out of high school and now your son is school age, you likely don't have a job. Have you tried to get part time employment while he is in school? Have you worked to get your GED?</p><p></p><p>Believe me I am absolutely not ragging on you. I am wondering if you have been able to take steps towards independence. I think maybe it's time that you set out a plan to use what free time you have to earn some money and get some self confidence. Moving from a Mom's house into a place with a SO will not give you the confidence that you need in your heart, soul and brain to really feel like an independent adult. Based on your description I doubt that your Mom would support your actions but as a woman who was a single Mom I absolutely know that you must seek out every opportunity to learn and feel more like an adult. </p><p></p><p>If I am on the "wrong track" feel free to tell me so. Based on my life experiences as an teenage Mom (although I was 19 and married when my first was born) I understand alot of the issues that come with early parenthood. It was not until I was 29 that I realized that I was an individual who need to learn how to live with-o another adult supporting me.</p><p>You are younger than that and there really are many avenues you can pursue. Explore classes, jobs, counseling and whatever you can think of to help you feel like a true adult. It is not easy but it can be done and I am rooting for you...and your son. As much as SO's and husband's are an important part of life YOU have to figure out who you are and how you want to live. That protects you from being dependent on parents or guys. You can do it! DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 464684, member: 35"] It is [B]very [/B]difficult to share a home with your parent and still feel independent. on the other hand, have you taken any steps to become independent other than trying to coparent with your Mom? I assume since you had your son at 17 that perhaps you have been with her for that time and therefore the boundaries have become blurred. That would be the natural consequence of sharing her home. I'm also assuming that perhaps you had to drop out of high school and now your son is school age, you likely don't have a job. Have you tried to get part time employment while he is in school? Have you worked to get your GED? Believe me I am absolutely not ragging on you. I am wondering if you have been able to take steps towards independence. I think maybe it's time that you set out a plan to use what free time you have to earn some money and get some self confidence. Moving from a Mom's house into a place with a SO will not give you the confidence that you need in your heart, soul and brain to really feel like an independent adult. Based on your description I doubt that your Mom would support your actions but as a woman who was a single Mom I absolutely know that you must seek out every opportunity to learn and feel more like an adult. If I am on the "wrong track" feel free to tell me so. Based on my life experiences as an teenage Mom (although I was 19 and married when my first was born) I understand alot of the issues that come with early parenthood. It was not until I was 29 that I realized that I was an individual who need to learn how to live with-o another adult supporting me. You are younger than that and there really are many avenues you can pursue. Explore classes, jobs, counseling and whatever you can think of to help you feel like a true adult. It is not easy but it can be done and I am rooting for you...and your son. As much as SO's and husband's are an important part of life YOU have to figure out who you are and how you want to live. That protects you from being dependent on parents or guys. You can do it! DDD [/QUOTE]
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