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<blockquote data-quote="lmf64" data-source="post: 301023" data-attributes="member: 7736"><p>What a waste of time. Part of the time wasted was because of difficult child. Can you tell me why I thought it would be a good idea to take him to a team meeting? Argh. difficult child walked in the room ahead of PCA and I. He walked in, looked at the table full of people, walked around the table and walked out with a growl on his face and said "we're leaving!" Okay, so leave, but I'm staying here. It took him about 20 minutes of him being loud and demanding and me ignoring him/not backing down for him to sit his butt down in a chair and participate. Then of course because he's there he gets to have his input. His input was I know my mom doesn't want me to, but can we work on me getting my liscense. To which they said oh yes that'd be a good thing to work on. UMMMMMMMMMM NO! I will not take the responsibility for him being behind the wheel. Why don't they get it through their heads? I've told them more than once that I won't be allowing him to drive till he's responsible for himself. I can't take on that liability.</p><p>Anyway, to the real waste of time. Having the meeting in the first place was a waste of time. The only thing we accomplished was that we know that the 1:1 they hired will be picking difficult child up at home in the morning in the school van, even though I told them that the bus ride in the afternoon causes more anxiety. We did discuss the real problem (student) and they will be working on keeping them off the same bus. </p><p>We met the new teacher they put in the AS classroom. OMG if she weighs 90 pounds dripping wet it's a miracle. AND when we were talking she told me that she's an occupational therapist by training so she knew how to handle his sensory issues and will be spending the first week or so doing a sensory evaluation with him. First of all he doesn't truely have any sensory issues, he has anxiety issues. Secondly Excuse me, but why is an occupational therapist teaching in a public high school? I sincerely hope that she has teaching credentials or God help this district. Also, the first time I get a call that difficult child is scaring the teacher, too bad. They knew when they were looking for a teacher that difficult child would be in the program and they know how he can be and I've told them more than once that if they back down from him once that he's got them right where he wants them and from there on out it's their problem deal with it and what do they do? Hire someone 1/3 of the size of difficult child, who thinks she's going to tell him what to do. hahaha</p><p>We also met the 1:1 they hired without my input. She may have a chance with difficult child. I will withhold judgement for the time being. She didn't seem to be fazed by difficult child's behavior so she might just work out, but it will all depend on how far difficult child is going to try to push it.</p><p>We also know that difficult child will have an "office". The only time during the day that he will be expected to be with other students will be one hour for a personal communications class. I'm not real sure I like this arrangement, but I can live with it for the time being.</p><p>We also know that we will be having another meeting September 23rd to discuss how the plan is working. Plan, what plan? They're going to spend the first couple of weeks honeymooning with difficult child and sit at the meeting and talk about how they don't understand why everyone else has had trouble with difficult child, he's just a dear. ARGH </p><p>The 1:1 they hired offered to take difficult child to the Y to work out some mornings and the interim case worker (his case worker had twins two weeks ago) is a family friend of the Y director and she is going to ask that he be given a scholarship so he can go. Now if only difficult child will cooperate and actually get out of the van at the Y and go in. Keep your fingers crossed.</p><p>difficult child's psychiatrist attended the meeting by phone. Have I ever told you all that I love that woman? She is so dedicated to ensuring that difficult child gets what he needs. I'm sure her time is compensated, but how many others would make sure that an IEP for one of her students is on her schedule to be available for the meeting. </p><p>difficult child's skills worker also attended the meeting. I hope the district uses him as a resource. He can get difficult child to go out with him and has finally got him staying out for longer. </p><p>I was so happy difficult child's PCA was scheduled for today. She came to the meeting and was here for me to decompress afterwards. She works during the school year for a nearby district so she knows the ins and outs somewhat. Of course each district operates just a little differently, but...</p><p>I was a little disappointed that difficult child's Mental Health Social Worker wasn't able to attend the meeting, but I knew two weeks ago that she wouldn't be able to be there. </p><p>The regional Austism Consultant ran the meeting. I'm not sure what to think of her. She seems too ready to agree with difficult child just to get him to quiet him down. She was the one who told difficult child that working on getting his liscense would be a good idea. She gets to be the good one who says yes difficult child do it. I HAVE to be the bad*** b**** who says not a chance charlie brown.</p><p>If you made it through this novel you're probably using toothpicks to hold your eyes open and wondering why I would take all that to say this, I HATE that it takes 11 adults to decide how to prepare difficult child for adulthood and wish I had a magic wand to wave over his head and heal him so we wouldn't have these long, non-productive (for the most part) meetings every month.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lmf64, post: 301023, member: 7736"] What a waste of time. Part of the time wasted was because of difficult child. Can you tell me why I thought it would be a good idea to take him to a team meeting? Argh. difficult child walked in the room ahead of PCA and I. He walked in, looked at the table full of people, walked around the table and walked out with a growl on his face and said "we're leaving!" Okay, so leave, but I'm staying here. It took him about 20 minutes of him being loud and demanding and me ignoring him/not backing down for him to sit his butt down in a chair and participate. Then of course because he's there he gets to have his input. His input was I know my mom doesn't want me to, but can we work on me getting my liscense. To which they said oh yes that'd be a good thing to work on. UMMMMMMMMMM NO! I will not take the responsibility for him being behind the wheel. Why don't they get it through their heads? I've told them more than once that I won't be allowing him to drive till he's responsible for himself. I can't take on that liability. Anyway, to the real waste of time. Having the meeting in the first place was a waste of time. The only thing we accomplished was that we know that the 1:1 they hired will be picking difficult child up at home in the morning in the school van, even though I told them that the bus ride in the afternoon causes more anxiety. We did discuss the real problem (student) and they will be working on keeping them off the same bus. We met the new teacher they put in the AS classroom. OMG if she weighs 90 pounds dripping wet it's a miracle. AND when we were talking she told me that she's an occupational therapist by training so she knew how to handle his sensory issues and will be spending the first week or so doing a sensory evaluation with him. First of all he doesn't truely have any sensory issues, he has anxiety issues. Secondly Excuse me, but why is an occupational therapist teaching in a public high school? I sincerely hope that she has teaching credentials or God help this district. Also, the first time I get a call that difficult child is scaring the teacher, too bad. They knew when they were looking for a teacher that difficult child would be in the program and they know how he can be and I've told them more than once that if they back down from him once that he's got them right where he wants them and from there on out it's their problem deal with it and what do they do? Hire someone 1/3 of the size of difficult child, who thinks she's going to tell him what to do. hahaha We also met the 1:1 they hired without my input. She may have a chance with difficult child. I will withhold judgement for the time being. She didn't seem to be fazed by difficult child's behavior so she might just work out, but it will all depend on how far difficult child is going to try to push it. We also know that difficult child will have an "office". The only time during the day that he will be expected to be with other students will be one hour for a personal communications class. I'm not real sure I like this arrangement, but I can live with it for the time being. We also know that we will be having another meeting September 23rd to discuss how the plan is working. Plan, what plan? They're going to spend the first couple of weeks honeymooning with difficult child and sit at the meeting and talk about how they don't understand why everyone else has had trouble with difficult child, he's just a dear. ARGH The 1:1 they hired offered to take difficult child to the Y to work out some mornings and the interim case worker (his case worker had twins two weeks ago) is a family friend of the Y director and she is going to ask that he be given a scholarship so he can go. Now if only difficult child will cooperate and actually get out of the van at the Y and go in. Keep your fingers crossed. difficult child's psychiatrist attended the meeting by phone. Have I ever told you all that I love that woman? She is so dedicated to ensuring that difficult child gets what he needs. I'm sure her time is compensated, but how many others would make sure that an IEP for one of her students is on her schedule to be available for the meeting. difficult child's skills worker also attended the meeting. I hope the district uses him as a resource. He can get difficult child to go out with him and has finally got him staying out for longer. I was so happy difficult child's PCA was scheduled for today. She came to the meeting and was here for me to decompress afterwards. She works during the school year for a nearby district so she knows the ins and outs somewhat. Of course each district operates just a little differently, but... I was a little disappointed that difficult child's Mental Health Social Worker wasn't able to attend the meeting, but I knew two weeks ago that she wouldn't be able to be there. The regional Austism Consultant ran the meeting. I'm not sure what to think of her. She seems too ready to agree with difficult child just to get him to quiet him down. She was the one who told difficult child that working on getting his liscense would be a good idea. She gets to be the good one who says yes difficult child do it. I HAVE to be the bad*** b**** who says not a chance charlie brown. If you made it through this novel you're probably using toothpicks to hold your eyes open and wondering why I would take all that to say this, I HATE that it takes 11 adults to decide how to prepare difficult child for adulthood and wish I had a magic wand to wave over his head and heal him so we wouldn't have these long, non-productive (for the most part) meetings every month. [/QUOTE]
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