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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 527065"><p>You know I have been thinking about this.... and I can accept my difficult child for who he is.... you know the fact that he is impulsive, doesn't always think ahead, maybe doesn't worry (although in fact I think he is rather anxious but he worries about the wrong things), volatile etc. So I can accept things that seem to be part of his personality.</p><p></p><p>What I have such a hard time with is what seems to be his values. He does not seem to have the values we brought him up with....he did when he was young I think. And of course this is an age old issue of parents and children when their values are different.... but when I was young I saw people who had differing values from their parents and we were talking more about political values... and you know I could easily live with my son having different political beliefs than I do....... but it is more about the values of what is right and wrong and how you treat people. How can it be ok to steal from others, to treat others with so little respect etc? I am not sure I can ever really accept that... and I guess my secret hope is that if he ever gets clean and gets his life together (which of course is a huge IF) that he will somehow get back to the values he was brought up with.... but I don't know it may be too late for that even if he gets clean.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 527065"] You know I have been thinking about this.... and I can accept my difficult child for who he is.... you know the fact that he is impulsive, doesn't always think ahead, maybe doesn't worry (although in fact I think he is rather anxious but he worries about the wrong things), volatile etc. So I can accept things that seem to be part of his personality. What I have such a hard time with is what seems to be his values. He does not seem to have the values we brought him up with....he did when he was young I think. And of course this is an age old issue of parents and children when their values are different.... but when I was young I saw people who had differing values from their parents and we were talking more about political values... and you know I could easily live with my son having different political beliefs than I do....... but it is more about the values of what is right and wrong and how you treat people. How can it be ok to steal from others, to treat others with so little respect etc? I am not sure I can ever really accept that... and I guess my secret hope is that if he ever gets clean and gets his life together (which of course is a huge IF) that he will somehow get back to the values he was brought up with.... but I don't know it may be too late for that even if he gets clean. TL [/QUOTE]
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