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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 192324" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Woah...wait. Heather girl. Stop and think for a minute here. I know you are gonna probably want to hit me...its ok...yell and scream at me...but I think you are projecting and hiding from not wanting to even deal with what therapy might uncover. It is easier for you to get mad at this therapist because of the trigger so you can justify not going back to him than to attempt to see if you can work through the rough spots. </p><p></p><p>You dont have to have any will to do therapy...and of course you are vulnerable! We all are. Trust issues are huge for us. You dont have to walk into his office and say...hello...I am here and I am going to trust you completely from day one. Its a learning curve. A give and take relationship. However if he doesnt see your vulnerability then he cant even help you. If you dont allow anyone in, no one ever gets behind those walls. I loved my walls. I still love them. It took me forever to start taking down my bricks and let joy behind them. I think it was almost a year before I allowed myself to cry in front of her! (Now I cant stop!...LOL) </p><p></p><p>If you really dont think you are ready...ok...I will support you 100&#37;. I will also be here to tell you I think you are making a mistake. Maybe this guy isnt the one but you do need to find someone. You would tell me the same thing...and you know it! </p><p></p><p>I only want the best for you. I want you to be happy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 192324, member: 1514"] Woah...wait. Heather girl. Stop and think for a minute here. I know you are gonna probably want to hit me...its ok...yell and scream at me...but I think you are projecting and hiding from not wanting to even deal with what therapy might uncover. It is easier for you to get mad at this therapist because of the trigger so you can justify not going back to him than to attempt to see if you can work through the rough spots. You dont have to have any will to do therapy...and of course you are vulnerable! We all are. Trust issues are huge for us. You dont have to walk into his office and say...hello...I am here and I am going to trust you completely from day one. Its a learning curve. A give and take relationship. However if he doesnt see your vulnerability then he cant even help you. If you dont allow anyone in, no one ever gets behind those walls. I loved my walls. I still love them. It took me forever to start taking down my bricks and let joy behind them. I think it was almost a year before I allowed myself to cry in front of her! (Now I cant stop!...LOL) If you really dont think you are ready...ok...I will support you 100%. I will also be here to tell you I think you are making a mistake. Maybe this guy isnt the one but you do need to find someone. You would tell me the same thing...and you know it! I only want the best for you. I want you to be happy. [/QUOTE]
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